Posts by caves

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Dating another Woke exJW or no?

by caves in

i find that the people here speak in a way i can understand because we have one thing in common if nothing else.

so my question is , would it be easier to date someone that has been a jw and woke up or not?.

i would love for someone to 'get it' without having to explain much.

caves

Gio- No one is interested in the JW life style.....if you are looking for a crutch then have at it....but understand you are still confused as to the true values of being in or apart of the JW world. Man up dude.

You've got to put on your big boy pants and forge through the wilderness in pursuit of who you really are and what you would like to accomplish in life. Move away....... clean up the JW's beliefs

I totally agree. I feel that this site forces one to "man up". Normally I don't like that saying but its really imperative to grab the jw bull crap by the horns and deal with it 100% , so I think its fitting.

I would expect someone to come in at 100% so I expect the same from myself.

Not looking for a crutch. Especially from a hung up jw or anyone for that matter.

Gio-You need to hook up with a person who is ready to meet and challenge life.

1000 times yes. Two people wanting and investing time into the other so that the can succeed in life is healthy. Anything less your selling yourself short.

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Dating another Woke exJW or no?

by caves in

i find that the people here speak in a way i can understand because we have one thing in common if nothing else.

so my question is , would it be easier to date someone that has been a jw and woke up or not?.

i would love for someone to 'get it' without having to explain much.

caves

Many interesting replies.

Diogenesister- I thought it was just me . Yippy , I have Jay -Dar. Muhahaha...lol.

OneEyedJoe- What a superb pros and cons list.

I think two people that have dealt with their own issues and come into a relationship as two whole people exjw or not would help in the success factor.

But I will admit that it would be nice to share in the laughter of say , as an example , a meme from here. One would have just about had to be an exjw to understand the humor in them.

Like I said, I'm not looking at all. I have a ways to go yet before I take that jump, or feel like socializing after the year I have had.

I tried to date last year for the first time in years. That was a complete disaster. But it was a learning experience.And for a brief moment in time I was really happy. Before crazy knocked on the door. But crazy came with a big bag of lessons.

What would be one of my worst nightmare is to date an exjw that I thought was completely POMO and then after a while they decide to go back. yikes.

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Dating another Woke exJW or no?

by caves in

i find that the people here speak in a way i can understand because we have one thing in common if nothing else.

so my question is , would it be easier to date someone that has been a jw and woke up or not?.

i would love for someone to 'get it' without having to explain much.

caves

Uzzah-It can be a good starting point but really shouldn't be the foundation of any kind of relationship beyond an acquaintance with a shared background. Anything more needs to be deeper.

Agreed.

The girl next door- Congratulations. 12 years is most awesome.

Tameria2001- There was something about him that caused them to click.

In regards your sister dating that guy , its like the jw radar. There is a certain inflection in a jws voice when they are "mentally in" or fresh-ish out. Imo. Or perhaps its just me.

Tam2001-We both officially left the organization at the same time, and I will say it was very nice to have someone close to me that I could talk to about my feelings, and he could do the same with me.

This is what would seem nice to me. So when I talked about my past even in passing of time or pillow talk ect... idk , that's why I'm asking.

In truth, I am not looking for a relationship at this time, but this topic I would like input on and experiences. I don't think it solid foundation for building a relationship on ,but it doesn't seem to hurt at all. I'm super guarded (embarrassed and traumatized) in respect my jw life so I always wondered if that might help with feeling more comfortable.

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Dating another Woke exJW or no?

by caves in

i find that the people here speak in a way i can understand because we have one thing in common if nothing else.

so my question is , would it be easier to date someone that has been a jw and woke up or not?.

i would love for someone to 'get it' without having to explain much.

caves

I find that the people here speak in a way I can understand because we have one thing in common if nothing else.

So My question is , Would it be easier to date someone that has been a jw and woke up or not?

I would love for someone to 'get it' without having to explain much.

What are your thoughts?

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The Biggest Issue Is Not Guns—It Is Mental Health!

by minimus in

jw
friends

crazy people shoot up places and kill people.

take away guns and they will find knives, poison, bombs , etc.. seriously, there are a lot of mentally unhealthy people!

they need professional long term help..

caves

There is nothing wrong with me... And as soon as my stuffed animal smurf stops flying around the room I'll take my medication.

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The paranormal.

by Lost in the fog in

i know that a lot of the people on here have turned their backs on the idea of a deity deciding that god does not exist.

but what about the unseen spirit world generally such as poltergeists, jinns, voodoo, etc.

if you have become agnostic, atheist, or just don't care since leaving, do you think that there are spirits out there or have you decided that is also hokum?

caves

Im actually glad that some of you have never had experiences that were super natural. You couldn't handle it.

About Randi. Hoax and fraud were strong words, and that doesn't mean that I personally disagree or agree with what he does and what he is about. I simply put links up dispelling the million dollar thing. One straight from his own site. The other was just opinions and bias observations that I found interesting. Just google it.

As far as the links I put them there and followed them after posting. So I dont know what happened . Maybe a ghost. lol

Question, Why is that when the police cant find a murderer they turn to physics for drawings and/or information.

I've known several people that do physic work with law enforcement.And actually nail the criminal.

Humm? Can anyone explain this?

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What Music have you Been Listening to this Last Year ? Post You tubes if you Like !

by flipper in

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wktxjuyiat4.

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caves

https://youtu.be/1OEron4rXfk

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The paranormal.

by Lost in the fog in

i know that a lot of the people on here have turned their backs on the idea of a deity deciding that god does not exist.

but what about the unseen spirit world generally such as poltergeists, jinns, voodoo, etc.

if you have become agnostic, atheist, or just don't care since leaving, do you think that there are spirits out there or have you decided that is also hokum?

caves

notsure-You may have witnessed "things" but doesn't prove the paranormal...if you could you would be a millionaire.

I assume you are talking about James Randi. Hes nothing but a hoax and fraud. That's how he makes a living. He hasn't done the millionaire thing in some time. There is a reason.

For several decades this little show of his has been going on and many people including journalists and the media has bought heavily into this. Bystanders repeat exactly what Randi want them to repeat: ”But no one ever succeeded the tests, so it’s proven the paranormal doesn’t exist”, they claim. While this predictive programming has been going on Randi has travelled around the world giving lectures that cost over 10,000 USD each for a standup comedy-like appearance where he makes fun of people and researchers positive to parapsychology. There is in fact reason to suspect that ”The One Million Dollar Challenge” is a way to sell expensive lectures.

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Getting Remarried after a spouses death & then they are resurrected after Armageddon ?

by LOLS in

hi guys .

i was wondering about the above , if a jw is allowed to remarry if a spouse has died, then what happens when they are resurrected at armageddon, do u land up with two wives/husbands ,,,,,,, makes no sense to me & can the jw's be so dumb not to think about this or have i got it wrong ?

and i will not be asking my uber jw husband , don't have the energy.. thanks.

caves

I was in stitches until someone said 'shiny spot' like a ken doll. Lol.Then I completely lost it.

Thanks, I just woke up from dreams about it. Shiny spots everywhere.

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The paranormal.

by Lost in the fog in

i know that a lot of the people on here have turned their backs on the idea of a deity deciding that god does not exist.

but what about the unseen spirit world generally such as poltergeists, jinns, voodoo, etc.

if you have become agnostic, atheist, or just don't care since leaving, do you think that there are spirits out there or have you decided that is also hokum?

caves

The universe as we know it continues forever. It would be really arrogant for humans to assume they are the only ones at play.

Even if I had never had witnessed certain things in my life. I would still believe in something else out there. It seems illogical not to.