Posts by ruderedhead

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Hey I'm going to be a great Granny

by mouthy in

to twins!!!!!!

melanie ( my daughter that passed away in 1999 that had twins,)tara & ashley .

( who posted on here years ago.

Ridiculous Hospital Experience Regarding My Non-JW Brother

by MrFreeze in

so a couple weeks ago my brother went into the hospital.

the only time anybody could have told them he was jw was on the ambulance.

i asked her about how he got switched to being a jehovah's witness.

Hopefully there will never be a next time, but if there is, ASK YOUR SISTER IN LAW TO HAVE YOUR MOM stay with the child, while she rides with her husband. She is the one with the latest medical info., anyways

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Are there any former Circuit Overseers on this site?

by Robert7 in

jw
friends

i've seen responses from a number of elders, but have any co's become enlightened?

ruderedhead

rocketman, why are you letdown by this experience? It was an amazing story of one mans awakening from the wt into truth. He studied on his own, used his critical thinking skills, and was not bullied into backing down. He used his brain, and helped others exit as well. They all found the truth in the Bible, not the wt. To escape and be able to take others with you is a wonderful thing!

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Needed - a printable 2013 DC badge

by venetian in

is anyone able to post this years dc badge for printing?.

i'm a man with a plan .

mawahhhhhhh!.

ruderedhead

Do you think anyone would bother you without a badge? I never wore the stupid badges, and no one ever questioned why. People record parts at the assemblies/conventions all the time. If you do it quietly, I wonder if anyone would bother you? They might just think you are interested, and don't give them reason to believe otherwise. All the best to you in your adventure!

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'Great ROI'...successfully fading

by Skipper12 in

6 months or so ago, me and my wife decided we will never set foot again in a kingdom hall.

about 4 months earlier than that, i stumbled upon an article about the wts being associated with the un.

that got me into finding out ttat eventually.

ruderedhead

That is awesome! Very happy for you and your family. Keep up the good work. Just proceed slowly.

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payback? bitterly upset....

by losingit in

i don't even know where to start.. more than anything, i'd like to say that i am not a woman of vengeance.

i am very much a forgiving person.

if you say "i'm sorry," and you're genuine, i can move on from it quickly and easily.

ruderedhead

losingit, I'm so sorry for your pain. It will get better in time.

Please don't seek revenge. It could come back to bite you in the butt if he fights for custody. Or it could cause him to decide to fight for cusody. They could say you are unstable, stalking people, who knows what baloney they could come up with. Continue your own counseling to help you and the children with the adjustments. It may also help you in figuring out why you felt you deserved what you have called an abusive relationship, so you don't repeat it.

I believe that what you are doing now is probably a good thing in terms of going to some of the meetings. Don't rock the boat until the divorce is final. Fly under the radar. He can take them when he has them, but after you are divorced, you do not have to take them. You can save them from this religion, and the pain you are experiencing. For now, reading the Bible with them is a wonderful thing! and find a good attorney. Interview more than one, ask non- witnesses for references. Just do it QUIETLY, AND DON'T LET THE CHILDREN KNOW, SO THEY CANNOT CLUE DAD IN.

Find your own way now. Figure out what it is you want to do. How do you want to support yourself? How can you achieve that? Take your time to figure it out. You will find new, true friends along the way. Can you do some volunteer work at your childrens school to fill some of the void you are feeling socially? Give yourself time to find your way back to normalcy, and know that there are many here who care,and will listen without judging. Much happiness to you.

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Can you help me encourage Reopened mind.

by TotallyADD in

jw
friends

as most of you know we got a very angry letter from our oldest son.

it hurt her very much.

i feel so bad for her because he attacked her for what i feel was very unfair.

ruderedhead

reopened mind, I'm so sorry you are going through this! We all do the very best that we can, no parent is perfect. I don't even want to think about the do-overs I wish I could have! Sometimes we become our childrens punching bags as they work through their issues as adults. Hopefully he will see you for the wonderful person you are soon. Love to you.

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Moving out, away and starting a new post JW life

by OneDayillBeFree in

recently at my last meeting, an older brother "in good standing" got disfellowshipped.. sitting only two seats away from him, i saw as he burst into tears as lifelong friends and family began their shunning and immediate gossip in the form of whispers came up from above the brothers and sisters in the kingdom hall.

i felt like giving him a hug and telling him that it was going to be okay and that whatever the reason for his disfellowshipment was, it didnt matter and that god still loved him but before i could muscle up enough courage to do so, he stood up in tears and left.. i shed a few silent tears for him.

i didn't see anyone else do the same.. it was at that moment that i realized without a doubt that living this way is just not worth it at all.. so i've thought about it long and hard and now i just want to move far away and just start new again.

ruderedhead

Please make sure that you are financially ready, befree. Moving out means more than paying rent. You need household items such as dishes, pots, silverware, towels, etc. You need daily toiletries such as soap, shampoo, t.p., toothpaste. A bed with sheets. Laundry soap.Do you currently have a vehicle that is yours? Do you live someplace you need one? Plan this rationally, not emotionally. You will be fine as long as you are smart about it. You don't want anyone saying you are having a hard time because you left the witnesses. All the best to you!

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Letter in the door, unbelievable message

by Comatose in

"there is obviously a problem.

may we talk?

do you realize that if you say no, you may be rejecting the creators help?

ruderedhead

That is just so strange I give you a lot of credit for even responding to it.

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Got a angry letter from our oldest son today we are very hurt from it.

by TotallyADD in

jw
friends

when i got home today from work my wife showed me a 5 page letter from our oldest son.

he basically said he does not what anything to do with us because of all the wrong things we did as parents to him and his brother.

he blames us for not being there for him and we are toxic parents.

ruderedhead

My heart goes out to you, ADD. We do the best we can. You said you shouted at them and were hard on them. Made them do wt things. You didn't beat them mercilessly, spit on them, make them sleep in cages. You said you are sorry multiple times. How many times do you have to say it? You are going to a therapist to become the person HE wants you to become. Is he also going to therapy to work on his anger issues? He needs to. How is your relationship with your other son?

My husbands father was a drunk for some of the time my husband was growing up. He was abusive physically during that time. He didn't really support the family very well, even tho he had a good job, they lived in a bad area with my hubby's invaliid granny in her house.When he got drunk, he would trash the house, and they would all sit outside waiting for him to pass out. When he quit drinking, they stayed in bad areas because he refused to spend his money to live in a decent area. They went to poor schools. He made good money, he was UAW. But anything they wanted they had to earn their own money for it. My husband actually shined shoes as a kid downtown. Father in laws money was his, and he kept in in the bank. My mother in law worked a minimum wage job she had to walk to, and he gave her a couple small utility bills to pay. In his later years,(they had to move in their 60's, cause they could hear gunfire at night, and we all refused to visit them any more) he had a stroke, and all 3 sons took turns going to the house to help take care of him so he didn't have to go into a nursing home. That is called Christian love.

Your son obviously considers himself a Christian. Isn't he supposed to forgive? Isn't that what Jesus instructed us to do? Didn't he die so we could be forgiven? You can't take back the past. You have tried to make amends. He is being a very poor Christian example to any children he may have. What if they decide they don't want to talk to him later on because they feel he should have done things differently? Do you think his wife and/or her family may be fueling this? Her job as a good Christian. wife should be to try and heal things.

It is time for you and your poor dear wife to move forward and live the best lives you can. Perhaps it is time to turn the tables and tell him again you love him and his family, your sorry for the past you cannot change, but this discussion is over. Call you when he's ready to move forward. And continue therapy because it is what YOU want, not because he demands it. And he really does need it as well to work through his anger. There has to be some deeper cause for his behavior. Much love to you and your wife.