Hi Sanchy,
Thanks ever so much for your own experience. This proves beyond any doubt that you can use their very own policies against them. It's just about being smart as to how to go about it.
Yes, Ex elders are in a better position as they can highlight paragraphs from the elders manual. But there are ways for the rank and file to draw the elders attention to their very own policies by simply acting dumb about things, yet remaining humble by agreeing with their BS. Its about being smart and keeping one step ahead of the elders. An individual can also highlight how much the emotional impact is having on their health by not being able to see their grand children etc, but that they would do their best ......yadayada.
If as the policy says, the person still associates with the df'd relative after this, there is nothing more can be done, apart from losing privileges.
My guess is they have this loop hole as someone highlighted for legal reasons ie not been dragged to court over it thus giving the organisation bad publicity.
People everywhere need to know this loop hole. Many People are suffering unnecessarily.
Knowledge is power, and you have proven this Sanchy