We have heard it said, “He that is not on my side is against
me…”
In Watchtower world this was certainly the case. Watchtower
world was fully good, while anyone not belonging to them was fully on the side
of evil--classic cult black and white thinking. There is no middle ground, no
fence. Anyone who sits of the fence is following the Devil whether they know it
or not.
If one points out any criticism in teaching or practice,
then they are on the other sides, they are following the enemy. After all,
there are only two sides. One side cannot do wrong and the other side cannot do
right.
In Watchtower world, political feuds abounded, especially
when people had any “position”. Most elder bodies around the world are rife
with politics. Personalities clashed, battles ensued. I know. I had family embroiled
in these constantly. Sometimes they were winners, sometimes they were losers. Who
was right? Who was wrong?
Now that I am outside of Watchtower world I realize they
were like children on a playground behaving badly over some meaningless game.
Often my family was as much the troublemakers as the other parties they were feuding
against.
There are many who carry of this same spirit of contention. Normally,
I try to duck and cover and be invisible. I am afraid of getting dragged into
the muck rather than attempting to live a post-cult life. To me, Watchtower
(not JWs) and other cults in general (not their members) are the big enemy.
Why? Because it is an evil that has affected my life. Of
course, I don’t give it the same energy I used to--I just don’t have the energy
anymore. I have done what little I could do. Even then, it was never about me.
I was about helping JWs still trapped.
And it was never about battling against any one individual, but
the “concept” that apparently holds even the Governing Body “captive”. Perhaps
there are some individuals who knowingly pull the strings, but I do not think
it has ever been proven. And besides if there are a shadowy cabal, I certainly
don’t know their names to make it about individuals.
Back to the point, contention is a force of nature that has occurred
before in the exJW community and will continue. The names will change but the
song will remain the same. I have no illusion anyone will change that and
certainly not anything I will say. But perhaps if anything I say makes sense,
perhaps some individual will decide to not contribute to any feud. And if I
ever get embroiled in such a thing, feel free to call me out on this and remind
me of these words.
I have noticed in both sides to the current feud that has
been going on that neither side can take criticism well. These camps seem to
believe there are only two sides without neutral ground. If anyone offers criticism,
they are assumed about being a follower of the other camp. In truth, there are
those outside the two camps. They see clearly the flaws of both camps because
they are not emotionally invested. They see both sides throwing gasoline of the
fire. They see both sides guilty of bad argumentation. They see both sides guilty
of what the other is accused of in slightly different ways. They see both sides
doing some good work as well, but the storm that they both stew overshadows it.
I am not in either camp…or anyone’s camp but my own. Nor am
I looking for people to be in my camp…my tent is not big enough.