wearewatchingyouman, you sound like a statistical outlier, and while your example may be noteworthy it won't be representative. I only heard of one ex-JW that joined the Services out of many that got disfellowshiped, DA'ed, faded, etc.
What exactly does me being a statistical outlier have to do with anything? Of course I'm a statistical outlier. I watched as 99% of my friends, and family my age, took the plunge. I'd say 50% of them actually believed, and the other 50% of them did it out of pressure from their parents or just because it was the thing to do. Everyone knew the consequences. Hell, most of them had an older sibling who was already DF'd.
It was a living hell for me from the ages of 15-18. Basically being the only kid my age not to be baptised. The pressure from my father was immense due to his fear of losing his position because of me. I was looked at as a black sheep in the congregation even though I was arguably the most respectful, honest and well behaved kid there. I was honest with my family, and the elders, about my doubts, not only with the organization but the existence of God. However, I wasn't rebelious about it. I didn't actively try to bring others over to my side.
I didn't give into the pressure. I made my decision. I stood tall. Now, I still have a social relationship with all my JW family. Those who felt the same way I did, but still took the plunge due to a lack of spine don't. It's that simple. Everything in life comes down to a choice. Those choices have consequences. IMHO, and experience, if you're honest with yourself and others about who you are and what you believe life works out pretty darned good. If you do things just to fit in with a group, because you feel a need to belong, or be accepted, shit goes downhill fast. You reap what you sow.