We were taught our entire lives as JW's that the "real life" is in the future so don't educate yourself, travel too much, allow your children to do sports, or to waste your time in pursuits other than field service, meetings and studying the publications. It's hard to get that programming out.
This is the real life, so we need to live well, do good and be happy. It doesn't mean trashing our life.
I know what you mean Craig. It's hard to come to terms that this is it. I tend to think that too, but a part of me really wants to believe there is more. My logical mind tells me "no". This is our life. Do the best we can. I just wish I had known that before I was 50 years old.