Posts by lauralisa

Hey, sweetie..... whatever is going on? Get it (at least part-way) out of your system, somehow. Tell somebody, anybody. If this board does not feel cool, find a friend. If you don't have a friend you feel cool about telling, there are places online where you can write "virtual diaries" or journals or whatever the f** you feel like writing.. (I'll come back with some URL's in a few....)

I've been in your position so so so many times. What it always came down to for me is hard to describe, but it was like I had to make a conscious decision to NOT freak. I had to make the decision every few SECONDS sometimes. The only "power" I felt I had was the power to "choose" to NOT FREAK. The thing would pass, somehow, and I was glad that I had not done something impulsive that would have much longer-lasting consequences.....

It was hard, splitting off from my emotions like that, and it felt so detached and ... clinical? But it got me through till I could gather my resources again.

Emmie's a big part of your need to stay intact, for sure. Sometimes my kids' needing me alive kept me able to just go "cognitive."

Let us know how you fare, and e-mail me if you think it would help

love, lauralisa

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Scootergirl says hi

by eyegirl in

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as scootergirl's sister, i feel it's my duty to inform everyone as to why she's been mia.

her computer pooped out on wednesday last week.

needless, she's been lost without it.

lauralisa

So that's where she's been....

(What does that MEAN?)

Beck please tell her she's been missed!

hugs, laura

Edited by - lauralisa on 23 July 2002 23:59:17

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THE MOST OUTRAGEOUS THING SOMEBODY TOLD YOU

by minimus in

what's the most outrageous thing that you were personally told ,while in the organization??

?

lauralisa

After being divorced from my first (non-jw) husband, I married again - the courtship lasted a few months, and even on the day we got married, I knew I'd just made one HUGE error in judgment. He was a classic abuser. After only two months I had to keep an overnight case in my car so I'd have something to wear when I had to bolt out of the house in the middle of the night.

After approaching the elders about how to get out of this disasterous mistake, one of them quoted 1st Peter 2:19-20: "For if someone, because of conscience towards God, bears up under grievous things and suffers unjustly, this is an agreeable thing. For what merit is there in it if, when you are sinning and being slapped, you endure it? But if, when you are doing good and you suffer, you endure it, this is an agreeable thing with God."

I bought this distorted reasoning for a couple of days, and then came to my senses...

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Help me out here....

by Wolfgirl in

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ok, i'm new to this site.

i'm currently questioning a lot of things.

i do not want to be "preached at" by either side; that'll just make me leave.

lauralisa

Hi Wolfgirl,

I add my "welcome" to you along with the others, and you have my compassion for the the abuse you've endured. (Btw: it makes sense that you "chose" an abusive man to marry; even if your memories were not in the front of your mind, survivors tend to hook up with abusive partners because they feel so "familiar." It takes much time and work (and a competent therapist!) to recover from a lifetime of lies and denial, and to acquire some self-esteem and dignity. I truly hope that the man with whom you are now in love can be supportive of your efforts to heal and get to the other side of this.

What I'm wondering: can you be more specific about what it is you are trying to research? Do you have a particular objective in mind? Are you dealing with doubts within yourself that you should go "back" to the Borg? I remember from my 14 years' of involvement with them hearing constantly that being "among God's chosen people" is the ONLY "safe" place to be... so ironic, isn't it, when your story is one of thousands (millions?) proving that the opposite is true...

I guess I'm wondering what would be of the most help for you right now. Perhaps you yourself do not even know (very understandable!). Whatever it is, you have found the best place for it, of that I'm sure.

Wishing you the best,

lauralisa

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Anyone ever rub elbows with a Celebrity?

by RubyTuesday in

when i was in the sixth grade in roswell n.m. i met this girl whos father had recently died.my father had also passed away recently.we were both very shy and haveing the lose of our fathers in common we stuck together that year.we never did anything outside of school however, not sure why,she never invited me over and now i think it was because of her horrible home life.but we ate lunch together everyday and chated in a class we shared.i never saw her again until..... when i was in my 20's my cousins wife told me that my friend demetria guynes was....... drum roll..plz.

demi moore.

please share simular stories.

lauralisa

*sniff*

Six made Kenny's car all Black on Blue!

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Six degrees of bad association...

by Valis in

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i had the pleasure of adding jesika to my list last night and after the haze of the sake bombs parted, i had good thoughts of all the apostates/people from this board i have met.

if i left some of you off, feel free to rebuke me at any time and please remind me if we have met and i just couldn't remember.....i'm wondering if we have six degrees of bad association...if any of you lovely folks have met any of the folks on my list then lets play a game and see how many names we can come up with and add your own list too.

megadude, elsewhere, gopher, lauralisa/evan , comf, billygoat, mozzerforlife, xena, tyydyy, sixofnine, gilwarrior, roo, rekless, desertflower, peaceloveharmony, joannadandy, eyegirl, scoortergirl, dirtyoldbiker, staceman & diane?, cara from minn, not interested, dave from minn, jim & sue from minn...and i hope many more very soon!.

lauralisa

Glares at not interested...... as if

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Anyone ever rub elbows with a Celebrity?

by RubyTuesday in

when i was in the sixth grade in roswell n.m. i met this girl whos father had recently died.my father had also passed away recently.we were both very shy and haveing the lose of our fathers in common we stuck together that year.we never did anything outside of school however, not sure why,she never invited me over and now i think it was because of her horrible home life.but we ate lunch together everyday and chated in a class we shared.i never saw her again until..... when i was in my 20's my cousins wife told me that my friend demetria guynes was....... drum roll..plz.

demi moore.

please share simular stories.

lauralisa

Well.

I have been in psych hospitals with Rob Pilatus (Milli Vanilli....), Roseanne, Michael Douglas, Dexter Manley, and one of Elton John's ex's, (among others whose "situations" are still confidential)...

Insider information: Rob thought Michael Jackson was a weirdo

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Helping Newbies Understand YOU KNOW

by JT in

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for those of you who may not be aware of who bobby is better know as "you know".

allow me to share some things about this man that may help to shed some light on his mindset as a jw.. one of the most important things i have found when dealing with "loyal" jw on the net is to find out thier status with in the org, esp if they are male- .

you see this organization is a "position" driven organization, esp for males and if they have no position within thier local congo - other than mike handler after being a jw for years then that means in most cases the male jw is considered a flunky- we have seen guys as young as 17 being appointed as ms-.

lauralisa

Perhaps Simon could create a new forum exclusively for YouKnow's (and everyone else's) benefit