@TD: Ok, still trying to narrow it down.
We are starting to just list examples, but perhaps they might be helpful. You can already see the moves being made - you list an example, but counter examples immediately pop out. Statistics will soon be on the way.
So initially you said that white people are defensive around the term “white privilege” because we just don’t quite understand it, or use the term correctly. And yet, it can’t really be defined - except with the “you know it when you experience” it argument. And so we have no choice but to attempt to enumerate example experiences to help ‘get the feeling’ of it.
“Privilege” went to “preference” then to “extreme preference” to “prejudice”. I wonder, could it be heading toward a general “racism” at this point? And if that is the case, are you sure white people don’t understand what is implied by that term?