Hi truthseekeriam, I agree with other posters that your description of your 1st visit with a therapist would raise red flags with me. I consider skepticism is a good thing, because it helps me to overcome my desire to trust people before they prove themselves as being trustworthy. If you have a plan about what you want to accomplish from your visits with a therapist, I feel that you will achieve greater success from your visits based on my personal experience.
I have visited 4 councilors in my life for two life changing events. I always think about what I want to accomplish when I visit a therapist to determine how long I will visit a therapist. What I want to accomplish changes with what is going on in my life.
When I got divorced, I visited three councilors before I stayed with one. One councilor I thought was very good and was religious. He was not covered by my insurance, so I decided to see more councilors who might be covered by my insurance. The second councilor was very, very empathetic, but I did not want empathy. I wanted to learn why I wanted to be with my ex-wife when we had an emotionally abusive and toxic relationship. I stayed with the third councilor until the insurance coverage ran out to vent my feelings instead of to my friends and coworkers. While seeing the third councelor, luckily a coworker recommended that I read a book, which had excercises that helped my to disover what childhood baggage I had that was trapping me emotionally to want to be with my ex-wife.
The second event was to understand my emotional conflicts in asking a woman to marry me. I saw one councelor who was covered by my insurance and she did help me to understand what was missing from my relationship and how to attain what I wanted with my girlfriend. Before I could talk to my girlfriend about working towards getting married she decided to terminate our relationship. Since I had already resolved my childhood baggage, I did not go through a lot of emotional turmoil.
Best of wishes to you and your husband on resolving your issues with your therapist.
Peace be with you and everyone, who you love,
Robert