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  My August Update

  by OnTheWayOut in

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  i don't really have a purpose in this thread, but wanted to share my thoughts and updates.. fading has, at least for now, totally stabilized.

  my jw wife doesn't discuss jw things and, as difficult for me as it is, i haven't been discussing anything directly against jw policy.

  oh, i slip in comments when she tries to judge people or groups based on her jw training- things like gay marriage, medical marijuana, pedophile news stories.

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  laverite

  OTWO,

  OMG -- a festival in Boys Town in Chicago. I can imagine how crazy that must have been. You and your wife were surely overdressed for the occassion. LOL. Just kidding. But seriously, I've seen a couple of these festivals and they are crazy. I don't judge. If people want to walk around all naked and stuff and be all hedonistic, it's none of my business.

  I wonder if your wife has confirmed through seeing the festival that the JW stereotypes of gay people are very real. Of course, there are usually some truths behind stereotypes. I just wonder if she knows that she's seeing a very small segment of the gay population -- those who live in Boys Town who attend festivals and walk around all naked-like.

  I'm gay. I have three kids. I've never walked around naked or even half naked. I'm pretty prudish, even! For me, as a gay person, my life revolves around home, children and pets when I am not working. I wonder if people who see stereotypical examples understand that's just a segment and that it is not representative of everyone who is gay?

  BTW OTWO this is an interesting thread! I am surprised your wife wanted to see what the festival was about. Just kind of wondering if she walked away from it with her JW thoughts reinforced.
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  Can the elders stop you from entering the kingdom hall if

  by label licker in

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  you continue to talk to the witlesses after being disfellowshipped.

  we were at a funeral recently and disfellowshipped hubby would talk to anyone who who would come up to him and talk.

  he said he wasn't going to be rude and that the rule of not talking to df ones don't apply to him.

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  laverite

  Label Licker,

  I am well aware of the word and its meaning.

  In your post, the way you used it, it's a slur. To try to twist it, and otherwise justify using the word while declaring that you, yourself as having disabled siblings doesn't give you any more credibility.

  Here's a short NY Times article: http://www.nytimes.com/2013/03/03/opinion/sunday/a-word-gone-wrong.html for anyone who is interested.

  I, too, have a sibling who is "mentally retarded." I can't imagine ever and I do mean ever using the word as a slur in the way that you did. If you do, indeed, have siblings who are mentally retarded, and you use the word as did in your post, I can only hope that you do not call your own siblings by that term.

  After reading your reply, I find your use of the word even sadder. This is the lastl I have to say on this (no further posts on this topic by me after this one): I find it totally offensive and injustifiable that you would use the word retarded as you did.
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  Can the elders stop you from entering the kingdom hall if

  by label licker in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  you continue to talk to the witlesses after being disfellowshipped.

  we were at a funeral recently and disfellowshipped hubby would talk to anyone who who would come up to him and talk.

  he said he wasn't going to be rude and that the rule of not talking to df ones don't apply to him.

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  laverite

  Regarding the statement: " Let them be the ones who are acting retarded." I find that personally very offensive. Using the word retarded in this way makes me very sad.
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  Was the New World Bible Translation Committee pressed for time?

  by I_love_Jeff in

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  ....when they did not include a translation of the hebrew scriptures in your special kingdom interlinear bible?

  perhaps it is easier to manipulate the new testament to fit with their twisted jw teachings?.

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  laverite

  It is interesting that they would take on such a long term project (among many others) with so little time left. I mean, the new system is basically here. It's right upon us. There is virtually no time left until the big A.
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  share your reaction after reading CoC and ISoCF

  by suavojr in

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  2. friends

  after reading coc and isocf i cried, i was in shock, disillusioned, angry, and afraid... anyone wants to share their experience?.

  i would like to see what you think about these questions when compared with your account.. why people from different backgrounds feel similar reactions?

  (cannot be a conpiracy).

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  laverite

  I read both books with great interest. I read them, however, long after leaving the Watchtower Corp. Even though it was years after leaving, I was completely glued to every page and chapter of CoC. I couldn't put it down. I was utterly captivated, and I read it in only about 3 sittings.
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  Topic About Psychological Gene (Hereditary) Patterns

  by LV101 in

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  anyone recall (tried to locate/failed) a very interesting topic within past 6 mos about latest research determining hereditary patterns in individuals but more than the usual that had been determined thru mental/brain studies previously - or something?

  sorry, i tried to locate but didn't find.. appreciate.

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  laverite

  There was some interesting research that was reported on the genetic links to obesity. But the media are always reporting on links between the brain and behavior (and often do so poorly). There are thousands of studies published each year that relate to the field of neuroscience.
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  My daughter asks about the Bible

  by laverite in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my 9 year old asked me yesterday about the bible.

  some of her friends in school last year spent a lot of time talking about hell and it really scared her.

  i dealt with it with her, so she is reassured and comforted and realizes she doesn't need to worry about going to hell.

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  laverite

  My 9 year old asked me yesterday about the Bible. Some of her friends in school last year spent a lot of time talking about Hell and it really scared her. I dealt with it with her, so she is reassured and comforted and realizes she doesn't need to worry about going to Hell. But interestingly, these kids also talk about having Bibles at home and reading the Bible. We don't have a Bible anywhere in our house. So she asked about why that is and if could get one to read.

  All I could do was answer her honestly, and say that I didn't think it was a book that would appropriate for little kids to read. She asked why, and I said there are so many bad things in the Bible that are very frightening, especially for children. I let her know that there are things just too inappropriate for kids to read, and that I wasn't going to buy one.

  She said "ok" and left it at that. She comes up with lots of questions out of the blue that I never anticipate ahead of time!
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  I had to control my laughter...

  by ILoveTTATT in

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  2. friends

  today at the meeting, during the prayer (to which i did not say "amen" to) the brother said "thank you for everything the faithful and discreet slave do for us.

  we know it is because they love us...".

  to which i had to really control my laughter cause i was about to burst out laughing... i just smiled, thankfully everyone else had their eyes closed and head down.... .

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  laverite

  Wouldn't it be funny for someone to start busting out laughing when something so ridiculous is said in a talk or a prayer? I'd pay to see that.
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  Elizabeth McFarland child abuse lawsuit on the news

  by cedars in

  1. watchtower
  2. child-abuse

  hi folks.

  i'm aware that there is already a thread on the newly-announced elizabeth mcfarland lawsuit, but i thought i would start a new thread for the benefit of lurkers showing the newly released news videos more prominently.. here they are.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hfhrhrvm2c4.

  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xegm1gunz2c.

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  laverite

  Bless her heart. I dearly hope she has been able to heal from what was done to her. Thank goodness she has spoken up. What a brave inspiration she is. Please let this inspire others to speak out, too.
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  Baffling comment by my JW parents about non-witness funeral

  by joyfulfader in

  1. jw
  2. experiences

  my parents attended the funeral of an elderly family member today.

  being out of state i was unable to attend.

  i asked how it went and was told that "worldly" people don't care enough about anyone to mention anything personal.

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  laverite

  Good for you, Joyfulfader. LOVE that username, by the way!!