Sahara I am trying to figure that out myself. I've only recently (last 6 months) refused to let the WBTS dictate my life and I'm still in the process of fading/walking away from it.
As for my mom, it is high mind control with her. I get her to admit she doubts the organization and in the same breath says that I need to stay in because it is the truth. No shit, no lie, no exaggeration. It blows my mind. I'm formulating a plan of attack on this mind control to put a wedge in the cracks she has. But I don't know if it will work. She has said multiple times in the past the famous (or is it infamous?) line that all jdubs use, "where else are we going to go?" Of course as we all know this is not what Peter said to Jesus. It was to WHOM are we to follow? Not where or what. It is simply astonishing the level of mind control that the WBTS has used.
This is definitely a work in progress. I keep thinking of the airline attendant that instructs you in the even of an emergency to grab the oxygen mask and put it on yourself first before helping someone else. I guess that is what I should be focusing on now, getting myself that oxygen mask and save myself.