Pollyannabanana... great name by the way! It makes me smile! I believe it will hurt for a little while... but realize that all things in time will pass. Keep coming back here... a lot. These folks are a wonderful bunch with lots to offer. Any many have been through hell and back. We're thinking of you... I know how scary the "committee action" can be from experience. But these are just men, fellow humans like yourself. They DO NOT speak for God. Keep focused on that and you'll come out just fine. Looking forward to hearing your story. Love & Peace... Jbean
Posts by JBean
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29Will this hurt?
by PollyAnnaBanana injust wanted to see if this works!
gotta hide out -- right now the judicial committee is after me!
and everybody i know and love is a witness.
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JW Marraiges
by sweetone2377 inhow many here were married as jw's to jw's??
if so, what was your main purpose in getting married to this person?
i ask this because, i married my dh so that i could get to know him.
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JBean
I also just remembered something: when I was 16 I wanted to "go out" with a boy in one of my classes. We like each other A LOT and I actually had the nerve : ) to ask my parents if we could go out to dinner or something one night. My folks sat me down and explained to me that I needed to find a brother in the "truth". Period. Obviously I didn't get to date this guy in school... but I remember telling one of the girls in my class that it was probably for the best and that I was very happy to have such a "brotherhood" to choose from... that if I had my pick of all the guys in the whole world, I would feel very unsafe and who knows what type of guy I might end up with!!! The guys in the truth were so righteous, loving and kind that I couldn't find a better "picking pool". HOW SICK WAS I?!?!?!? My personal experiences blow that theory right out of the water! And someone mentioned that they were free to marry out of love (or tell their kids to marry out of love)... how true. I don't think most of these witness kids know what love even is yet when they choose their mate! I know I didn't. The marriages that have lasted in or out of the organzation are truly blessed.
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JW Marraiges
by sweetone2377 inhow many here were married as jw's to jw's??
if so, what was your main purpose in getting married to this person?
i ask this because, i married my dh so that i could get to know him.
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Amen Paul! Folks like YoYo are so nasty because they are stifled and extremely angry and they don't even know it... Obviously this board welcomes all.. JW and non-JW, but if someone is here to try to slam those that have left or convert them back... they should be ashamed of themselves. They aren't even supposed to be here... so they're the hypocrites, not anyone else. I'd like to see what kind of reception they'd receive back at their KH if they stated to the congregation "... oh, when I was chatting on the apostate board..." Anyhow... back to the thread. I got married at 18 to a fellow JW during a year that EVERY 17 - 20 year old in our hall got married. Throughout the years, EVERY SINGLE COUPLE (including myself) got divorced. That is a sad thing because there were some really nice young people that became emotionally wrecked 'cos of this. I also believe that they all had numerous children from these marriages...here I did not follow suit. I still don't have kids... yet! : ) Jbean
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Newbie alert !!! Just wanted to say hello...
by sadiejive ini came here by chance...looking for none other than jw material:) i am currently studying with jw's and attend the kh but am not baptized, as are none of the members of my fam...yet.
i've been studying for almost 4 years with the witnesses.
i am confused...that's the simplest way of putting it.
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JBean
Welcome to posting, David! Your story (of which I hope we hear more of) as well as Sadie's touched my heart. You are very lucky however, to have your immediate family "out" along with you. I'm still hoping... see you soon! Jbean
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Newbie alert !!! Just wanted to say hello...
by sadiejive ini came here by chance...looking for none other than jw material:) i am currently studying with jw's and attend the kh but am not baptized, as are none of the members of my fam...yet.
i've been studying for almost 4 years with the witnesses.
i am confused...that's the simplest way of putting it.
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JBean
Well... YoYo sounds pretty mellow today, however, I just want to point out that it's not JUST JW's that have the privilege of relying on Jehovah. That, if I'm not mistaken, is open to all humankind. No specifics as to what you call yourself (and what actions are demanded that you twist yourself into a pretzel to adhere to... ahem) are needed to rely on God and Christ.
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Update
by sweetone2377 inok, we broke the news to my grandparents today.
my grandfather is in agreement with me and dh.
my grandmother said "well, just don't bring them down here anymore" how mature is that?
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JBean
Shelly... I'm glad to see you're keeping a positive attitude (laughter always helps!) : ) I say tell your mom... while the ball is rolling. If you pass up this opportunity you may never get up the guts to do it again. Peace... Jbean
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Holiday Advice
by Kay Francis ini'm new to this forum and badly in need of advice.
my husband and i left the organization over four years ago, but unfortunately have left many family members behind.
in fact, my mother is still an active jw but pretty much follows her own agenda.
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JBean
Your welcome Kay! You have a wonderful holiday yourself and a safe New Years! Please check back with us often!
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Harry Potter and my daughter's class
by RunningMan inhere is a little story that i thought you might find interesting.. last week, the local jw sisters dropped by our house to enquire.
as to our recent absences (we actually had good excuses this time).. one of the sisters has a son who is in my daughter's grade 6 class.. during the visit, she asked what we were doing with regard to harry.
potter.
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JBean
Orthodox and Reformed! hee! Sweet! (I just had to giggle even though this is a serious issue.) I am thankful that my parents let me and my siblings do everything we wanted to in school... clubs, band, marching band, theater, choir, sports! I did know most JW kids in our hall and surrounding areas did not get to do this. My dad was an elder and had lots of pull, though, so we were probably looked "down" upon but no one had the guts to say anything. Nutty.
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Newbie alert !!! Just wanted to say hello...
by sadiejive ini came here by chance...looking for none other than jw material:) i am currently studying with jw's and attend the kh but am not baptized, as are none of the members of my fam...yet.
i've been studying for almost 4 years with the witnesses.
i am confused...that's the simplest way of putting it.
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JBean
Hi Sadie... welcome! I want to just corroborate (sp?) what the others here have said. Of course the majority of JW's are nice people... they're people just like us with hopes, dreams, loves, etc. HOWEVER... the organization they (we) belong to is not like that. It is extremely controlling. PLEASE do not accept that if you get baptized you can at some point change your mind... or simpler yet, even question what you are learning or what they tell you. I've been a JW since birth and must tell you in all sincerity that you CANNOT leave without being shunned. There are so many rules and regulations (some congregations being more strict than others, of course) that it is hard to live your own life. Know this for a fact before you make any further progress. I got baptized at 17 years old because everyone else in my congregation that was about my age was doing it. I didn't feel like I had any other choice... but you do!!!! I cannot have an honest, open relationship with my JW parents, family or friends... because my life would absolutely fall apart if they knew I disagreed with most of how I was brought up. My suggestion would be to have a SERIOUS talk with your husband... and ask the people you are studying with the HARD questions. And don't accept their "pat" answers... and most of all do not accept their answer of "... well I'm not too sure, but let's wait on Jehovah..." They seem to think this covers most everything. Please use your God-given reasoning abilities and go slow! Much love and peace to you... Jbean
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Prayers welcome but not neccessary
by sweetone2377 intoday i am leaving for ky, where my jw mother and step father reside.
sometime during this hectic week, we are having a little meeting of our own with them.
you see, my mother has repeatedly disregarded my wishes and have snuck my children to meetings (ages 2, & 3), taken them out in service, put them in direct contact with a paticular elder that we expressed several times that the kids were to be no where around, etc etc.
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JBean
I will be thinking of you. What you are about to do is a large step but indeed sounds like it needs to be done. Be strong and know that love and truth are on YOUR side. Please write back and tell us how everything went. Love & peace... Jbean