i wasn't sure i was ready for it, but i did it anyway...i put out a personal ad.
i've gotten a few responses, but nothing seems promising yet.
i get the feeling that internet dating is more about quantity than quality, but i think that's what i need right now.
B,
I think the best thing is to just be patient. I KNOW that's very difficult. Be very CAUTIOUS with the internet dating,. Lots of very nice people on those sites but also quite a few nutbags.
Just go out and have fun. Get to know the ones you work with more. You never know who has a friend or sibling to introduce you to.
Hang in there and when you least expect it......BAM!
Mandette
after reading a couple of posts about getting rid of publications, i finally got the courage to do it.
i went home and cleaned them all out.
they were on a shelf in my garage being apartment buildings for wasps nests!!!!.
Tired,
It's funny you say that.....demons! HA! BUT.....in the past years as I've allowed myself to have a more open mind, I've had some strange things happen. I'm certainly NOT attributing it to demons. But it just makes me wonder........that there may be things "out there". But that's a whole other post!
OH! And after they were in the dumpster, a load of dirty kitty litter was dropped in there too! GRIN
Mandette
i haven't left.... 1 thing while i'm actually in is being here though.... i'm happy here.
i actually feel for the first time really "right" about something... .
Got drunk!
Mandette
after reading a couple of posts about getting rid of publications, i finally got the courage to do it.
i went home and cleaned them all out.
they were on a shelf in my garage being apartment buildings for wasps nests!!!!.
LC
I LOVE the way you write. You have a way with words! And you're so right. Now it's the mental "weeds". I'm still working on those. At least I'm not having nightmares about Armageddon anymore. Now I'm working on the knots I get when something significant happens in the world. That's the hard one for me to get rid of....the thought that MAYBE they could be right. I know logically how things are BUT sometimes it's hard to be logical after so many years of living in fear under a cloud of doom!
Thanks to all for the kind words!
Mandette
after reading a couple of posts about getting rid of publications, i finally got the courage to do it.
i went home and cleaned them all out.
they were on a shelf in my garage being apartment buildings for wasps nests!!!!.
After reading a couple of posts about getting rid of publications, I finally got the courage to do it. I went home and cleaned them all out. They were on a shelf in my garage being apartment buildings for wasps nests!!!!
Anyway for the past 10 years that was the closest that I could get them to the dumpster!!!
I dumped them all in yesterday afternoon. And lightening did NOT strike.....and oddly enough I feel better. It's like I broke a hold on me.......I know that's strange....
Mandette
jws have certain must haves.
for example a jw needs his or her own "bookbag".
an elder needs an "elder case", something very big, because after all, he's an elder!
the light that keeps "getting brighter and brighter".....or flickers or burns out or something........
A NAME BADGE for the DC!!!!!! A must have!!!
Their own special version of the bible!!!!!!
Their own "key words" that only they use........"truth" "friends" etc
and it goes on and on and on........
Mandette
i just had to share this funny and also pathetically sad story with everyone.
today my mom took me to a doc appt and while we were in the waiting room the story about the california eathquake came on.
it got my mom talking about the earthquake several months back in illinois.
WHAT????????????????????????????
Fern!!!!!!
She didn't say the earthquake meant that Armageddon is at 9am sharp tomorrow morning?????????????
HA!
Mandette
ok my gay friends, i'm going to pick on you a minute, but you know i love you all... .
me... liberal male, could care less what you do with your sex organs, i only care about what i do with mine...that said, i've several gay friends... none of which are monogamous.
so, my next door neighbors are lesbians, neither are the hate all males types like some i have known in the past... matter of fact, one loves sports and hangs out here watching football and other sports with me at least once a week.
Dawg,
Stop peeking in the windows! Just kidding. Seriously though, physical violence needs the cops.
And you sound like you are perfectly capable of telling them not to involve you in their drama. Sounds like a good thing to do but always easier said than done.
Mandette<or have lots of these when the screaming starts....
i'm sure this has been discussed.
i was wondering what attracts a lurker/n00b to post for the first time.
i made my first post in someone else's thread eschewing the "hi, i'm new" thing.. for anyone, particularly the lurkers/noobies:.
For me it was being able to talk to so many others that feel the same way....In my situation my family is still immersed heavily in it so it's awesome to be able to express myself freely.
And it's almost like a therapy. I've yet to find any therapists that truly understand. Only those that have been in "that religion" can totally understand.
And it was a relief to really know that it's not some defect in me that made me leave. That's how a lot of them view it. I had one (who was on her way to bond her son out of JAIL) tell me that when "I get myself straightened out" that I'd be back. I looked at her and said I don't see where I'm screwed up. I'm NOT in jail, I have a (gasp) college education and a mortgage and live a pretty decent life. She really backtracked then.
Mandette
i haven't been posting lately - work is busy and all that.
so i get a letter from my dad yesterday.
he and family just recently visited.
At Peace,
The way I handled things with my parents was to tell them I couldn't do the religion for them. And that I didn't want to be a hypocrite. I did NOT get into beliefs or questions. The main reason being that the JW's feel any type of questioning or doubt is apostacy. I knew that if I did that, I risked my close relationship with my parents. Maybe this was a cowardly way to do things. But I knew that I wasn't going to change my parents minds and they weren't going to change mine. I ADORE my parents. And I respect them immensely. I know that even if I questioned things that they would still love me BUT I didn't want to not be able to go out to dinner with them or do other things. Does that make sense? I too want to enjoy the time I have left with them (they are 79 and 80 yrs old).
I'm sure your parents are very upset about your choice, but trust me on this..mine were too and it got better. I know not every situation is the same. But it worked for me.
And this may sound paranoid but don't put things in writing that you don't want the elders in the congregation to see. It can be used against you. Your parents my not intentionally show it to them for that reason but it could be used just the same.
Just my thoughts.....
hang in there...
Mandette
