Right on FHN! (gawd, I MISS that larger font!). Anyone who starts telling other people they have THE TRUTH should raise all those red flags!
Frannie, what I had in mind was my Catholic friend Angie that was raised Catholic. When something catastrophic happens she can pray to something that she believes in. Because she was RAISED that way. It comforts her, & she actually BELIEVES it works. People that were not raised that way I'm thinking would have a hard time getting anything like that in adulthood & believing in it.
Goodness Frannie, I would think by 28 you would have had your heart broken a couple times & become jaded. For me, it's fool me twice, shame on YOU. I never became a man hater, & have known lots of fine men that I've had (and have) utmost respect for. But I think you get a little gun shy after a bad experience. Frannie, just heard a country song called Wedding Song, or something like that & it was some check singing about look at the bride, she is so young & sweet, and she don't know nothin', I'm glad I'm not the bride.
My husband sees people differently, it might be a man thing. I don't know, I never asked one. But he meets people & waits for them to "prove" themselves to him. He is a first impression kinda guy & holds people at bay. It might also be because he has a great talent & has been used to people trying to suck up to him & be his "friend" before. I meet people & try not to jump to first conclusions & like them till they act up or do something to me.
You know, his way actually seems to work better, come to think of it! If I had more of his attitude & less tolerance for "interesting" people, I might not have had some of the trouble that I have had. Any way you lose your innocence & belief that mankind is basically good is never pleasant, for sure!