Good news! I have an suggested "out" that the elders can't argue
Bad news! You will still have to spend sometime reading the WT and discussing it with your mom.
Before I continue I wanted to let you know that I too am Texan, 33, 2 kids (8 &3) and married to an inactive Baptist.
Here is the solution to the JW family.
You will need to borrow your mom's WT cd for a some research. Once you have it or she can get one from the KH, start searching for "Headship" articles. Compile those that can support you claiming innocence under "Husbandly Headship". Since your husband is yours and your children's "head", and he is not a believer, he can impose worldly practices in your home. He can in fact choose which church the family worships. The only catch here is claiming that you are not "wholeheartedly" participating, but rather obeying his authority. If your family are devout JWs they will recognize God's headship arrangement, if not, request a meeting with her elders, no eldership is going to disagree with Headship or WT literature. This will also reinforce the biblical essences of the "argument". Stand firm and you can milk this for a lifetime
The trade off:
You will need to accept WT on a regular basis from your mom, pacify her. Make sure to read through them and be able to discuss them at some later point. Toss them in the trash once you have read them.
Your family just needs to be reassured that you understand the JW message. Being a JW is their hobby, much like soap operas are my grandmothers. People like to talk about their hobbies, again pacify. If you want to keep a relationship going this is all that it should take.
Maybe go to the "Memorial" with them........again just tossing bones
As for church, I would choose the one that could allow your family to grow! In my town both the SB and Methodist offer all types of classes, workshops, study groups, support groups, are kid friendly with activities that are "God Focused", there are early services, family services, kids church, choir, charitable drives for the community......the list goes on and on. Visit as many as needed until you find a fit.
Make sure to water you X-mas tree!
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