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  I finally drove off my wonderful jw wife...and i am so sad..

  by oompa in

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  i helped her move out this weekend so i must be a masochist too...so on top of losing every friend in my life...i have now lost my wife...and yes i asked her to leave on more than one occasion this year...we have argued for nearly five years about wt crap...nothing i could ever say would make her question anything!!!!

  it was beyond frustrating...then this spring when i somehow disassociated myself and even lost my parents i knew i would never have a normal marriage no matter what...all i wanted was a normal marriage with mutual friends...that is off the table as long as she is a jw...but why could i not accept it???

  why could i not shut up???

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  I really do not blame her for leaving me...and i did feel trapped in very odd marriage...so i should be happy right?...but im not...after three years of being shunned and this great division growing in our marriage...it was always there...and with totally separate social lives you may meet a woman who makes you feel special...who actually made me feel good about myself for the first time in a very long time...and thats wrong on just about every level....i left my wife once for another woman...and she took me back...and i have been faithful since then...but this time it is due to the religion...it is so hard to be in a marriage when i will always be viewed with contempt by her friends

  two shrinks have actually diagnosed me PTSD...just like the horrors of war this religion haunts me still...OMG she even got a JW lawyer to help fight the apostate! I wonder how much the loss of half my assets at age 50 is affecting me? i say that because it is scary.... I did well in biz and most would consider me wealthy... i have no pension to look forward to but had enough assets maybe to be ok...but no more....now i am worried about the next 15 years...no 30...i feel so unprepared for old age because i was raised to believe i would never grow old or die...what a mindfluck!....oompa

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  I finally drove off my wonderful jw wife...and i am so sad..

  by oompa in

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  i helped her move out this weekend so i must be a masochist too...so on top of losing every friend in my life...i have now lost my wife...and yes i asked her to leave on more than one occasion this year...we have argued for nearly five years about wt crap...nothing i could ever say would make her question anything!!!!

  it was beyond frustrating...then this spring when i somehow disassociated myself and even lost my parents i knew i would never have a normal marriage no matter what...all i wanted was a normal marriage with mutual friends...that is off the table as long as she is a jw...but why could i not accept it???

  why could i not shut up???

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  oompa

  I helped her move out this weekend so i must be a masochist too...so on top of losing every friend in my life...i have now lost my wife...and yes i asked her to leave on more than one occasion this year...we have argued for nearly five years about WT crap...nothing i could ever say would make her question ANYTHING!!!! it was beyond frustrating...then this spring when i somehow disassociated myself and even lost my parents i knew i would never have a normal marriage no matter what...all i wanted was a normal marriage with mutual friends...that is off the table as long as she is a JW...but why could i not accept it??? why could i not shut up??? and now i am already feeling so alone...i let a perfectly good woman go...and i already have regrets...but i dont think there was any other way...this is so sad...i will miss her very much...she is a saint........oompa
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  sorry...but how do they not notice???

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  that their bible is different from any bible anyone else reads in that it has added the name jehovah to the new testament greek scriptures??

  when it is not there in any ancient manuscript????

  i mean they put it there where it aint quoted at all....like all 12 times in revelation....i mean how can they not have a problem with that???

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  that their bible is different from ANY bible ANYONE else reads in that it has added the name jehovah to the new testament greek scriptures?? when it is not there in any ancient manuscript???? i mean they put it there where it aint quoted at all....like all 12 times in revelation....i mean how can they not have a problem with that????....or maybe if they knew???...so far 13 elders i have talked with including my brilliant elder/dad....and they had no clue..................oompa
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  got my divorce summons....wow it got even weirder

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  we are both scared and we let each other know ......me for loosing a good woman twice in thirty years....both jw btw....her for losing me....

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  we are both scared and we let each other know ......me for loosing a good woman twice in thirty years....both jw btw....her for losing me...
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  recent epiphany 14....my wifes door to door disclaimer...

  by oompa in

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  so recently i realized again via nutjob cults in the news that when you predict the end of world and fail...some people notice...and you have to cover your ass and say something happened invisibly right?...sounds familar i know.... so i tell wife to from now on knock on doors and say "hi, im one of jehovahs witnesses and even though we predicted for one hundred and forty consecutive years that the world would end in the twentieth century...i would still like you to accept my free home bible study".

  of course i cant even get her to look inside an awake cover from before 1995 where indeed it says this....and prior to 19oo russell preached the end would occur in 1914 starting in 1874 i believe and that jesus had already come invisibly of course.

  and then i realizied that the scripture is so simple it does not need interpretation...."nobody can know the day nor hour...not even the son" or something like that...so isnt it ironic that the entire basis for this religion as founded by russell was for that exact same reason!!!

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  DesirousOfChange....uhhhhhhhhh nope!....not taking out any frustrations of the religion on my wife....this is logic not frustration....she is not happy being married to a non jw period. i am not happy being married to one who will not accept my friends...even though i can accept hers....and that is just not the recipe for a normal healthy marriage..............but thanks...i tried everything except going back.....oompa
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  why cant i cut and paste here??? help please

  by oompa in

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  i have vista pro or such...never had a prob with it and i use google chrome....right clicks dont work nor do the nice icons in the tool bar above as to me wanting to cut and paste.

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  thanks....oompa.

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  so these icons work on chrome for you? do they all work on other systems?
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  why cant i cut and paste here??? help please

  by oompa in

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  i have vista pro or such...never had a prob with it and i use google chrome....right clicks dont work nor do the nice icons in the tool bar above as to me wanting to cut and paste.

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  thanks....oompa.

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  so these icons work on chrome for you? do they all work on other systems?
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  Long time lurker, but new here.

  by ICUstaryn in

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  after watching serenity's video i had to comment.

  i kept pausing the video looking for family members or others that i might know but haven't seen in years.

  hated the drive to holt, but loved the soft serve ice cream.

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  awesome! and if you have been here awile maybe you have seen my crazy coaster ride as a 4th gen exiter....good luck and pm me for contact and fb info....you are in for a ride too!!!...i have not even gone back to read your first post but will....i just know i love your name here ICUstaryn! WELCOME FRIEND!!!!...... FREEDOM AND FREE THOUGHT ARE AMAZING!!!!!!...............OOMPA
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  why cant i cut and paste here??? help please

  by oompa in

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  i have vista pro or such...never had a prob with it and i use google chrome....right clicks dont work nor do the nice icons in the tool bar above as to me wanting to cut and paste.

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  thanks....oompa.

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  oompa

  i have vista pro or such...never had a prob with it and i use google chrome....right clicks dont work nor do the nice icons in the tool bar above as to me wanting to cut and paste

  thanks....oompa
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  recent epiphany 14....my wifes door to door disclaimer...

  by oompa in

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  so recently i realized again via nutjob cults in the news that when you predict the end of world and fail...some people notice...and you have to cover your ass and say something happened invisibly right?...sounds familar i know.... so i tell wife to from now on knock on doors and say "hi, im one of jehovahs witnesses and even though we predicted for one hundred and forty consecutive years that the world would end in the twentieth century...i would still like you to accept my free home bible study".

  of course i cant even get her to look inside an awake cover from before 1995 where indeed it says this....and prior to 19oo russell preached the end would occur in 1914 starting in 1874 i believe and that jesus had already come invisibly of course.

  and then i realizied that the scripture is so simple it does not need interpretation...."nobody can know the day nor hour...not even the son" or something like that...so isnt it ironic that the entire basis for this religion as founded by russell was for that exact same reason!!!

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  aguest....what is the sa at the end of your post? ...i see we have both been here quite a bit.....i am not a slave anymore btw and that term "a slave of christ" just freaks me out for some reason...no offense i hope....i just wanted you to know it gives me a weird feeling....right now i cant imagine anyone wanting to be a slave to anybody.....but i now just realized when i wrote that that i am totaly wrong!!! i recently watched a period piece series on tv...Sparticus....or some similar gladiator days when of course there were slaves and in fight i believe most of the gladiators were slaves even....but anyhoo as i totataly digress from this thread....then just realized i am a slave kinda....i have debt and i kind am a slave to them and our entire monetary system....and i slave to stay young....mentally at least

  but anyway you are dead on and this is exactly what i am doing....and i am nice now and avoid jw talk.....we love each other enough..... but for me i have had to face reality and make a painful conclusion....it is not healthy mentally or emotionally for us to live together as husband and wife due to this crazy "non-social as a couple state of marriage"..... so I have no choice but to separate and/or divorce and i will be as nice and fair as i can....and btw i am being nice to my many jw employees still despite them not treating me as equal co-workers as requied by law btw......we have not had a cross word in a couple of weeks....i bring her coffee still in the morning...but i dont sleep with her or share our nice big bathroom anymore....i have my man cave and plenty of room in my end of the house and she has hers....we still cook together sometimes....she eats with her tv and i eat with mine most of the time....good roomates we would be except that even good roomates get to have their friends over and even enjoy spending time with them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!DAMM i just realized we are not even NORMAL GOOD ROOMATES!!!!! calling my lawer again today...have not in one year....but it is time...thanks to my boys...and all your support here....i have to do it....thank goodness for clarity...and sobriety...and therapy....and having all that weight off my chest....whew....i gladly and proudly accept the term apostate and am soooo glad i disassociated myself....getting dfd for a wandering penis is just so blas'e...oops that french youngins...it means jaded, nonchalant, unimpressed, casual, trite

  btw i am also being nice still to my many jw employees despite them not treating me as equal co-workes as required by law...one will not ride to jobsites with me!....one refused to help me with a house search...i truly love these people like my own family....i still do and always will....she is a realtor....said she could work for "your corporation under this arrangement, and it does not bother my conscience...but as a realtor i CHOOSE who i work with"....i love this woman and have for over 25 years....i wish our children could have married...i wanted her newborn son Damon to grow up with my newborn son...but Damon died only one week old while my friends went to court to prevent a blood transfusion he needed for an immediate heart operation....daman and my boy are 23 years old now....and tears are dripping off my cheeks for many minutes now.....god it hurts sometime...and no i am not really talking to you.....oompa