That's why you were df'd einstein!
I went through the same thing, they asked the same questions. they ask all those questions to find out Exactly what happened, without leaving out major details that could have an effect on the decision. When they asked me, I told them exactly what happened...every detail. And they could easily tell I was disgusted at what I did and I wanted to do everything nessasary to move past this. I was privately reproved. It's all in your attitude, you had a non-repentant attitude, and either justified what you did, or blamed it on your father or the elders. That's why you were df'd, you are a perfect example of why they ask specific questions like that-it brings out your true colors...
SeanGuy