Posts by BizzyBee

Good morning Kitten and Welcome! Life outside the WTS is .............well......................life outside the WTS. That in itself is a very, very good thing. The fact that you've married the most wonderful man in the world and he is with you in leaving the bOrg portends that life will be good.

It is always a joy to see someone break free from the bondage.

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I finally made it in to see the Dr.

by WildHorses in

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and what i have is depression.

i've been prescribed prozac and for a short time xanax.

i will only be on the xanax for about two weeks.

BizzyBee

the medication in itself has small value for long term or chronic depression, you need to be working on the things that precipitate the depression and learn how to cope. Counselling and group therapy I found very helpful.

I must be in the minority, but I agree with the above. Being on a lifetime of meds that flatten out your emotions and destroy your sexual capability has got to be a last resort. I recommend the best seller of many years ago, "Listening to Prozac." I am on my second reading. The author, a psychiatrist, is neither for nor against antidepressants. But his major point is that sometimes depression has something to tell us that we should be listening to so that we can learn from it and how to deal with it. If it is weight issues, relationship, job, etc., meds just cover over your feelings about it, but doesn't solve the underlying issue. Experiencing the pain, however, can move us to action - which can actually make things better. Good luck to you.

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Forbidden interests?

by girasole in

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what interests you now that you can think about, study, explore, and delve into anything that you'd like?

did you embrace this freedom immediately or did it take a while?

i left the borg in 2002 and at first i buried myself in books about philosophies and such that i'd never before been allowed or allowed myself to consider.

BizzyBee

First thing I did was sign up for a night class at college - Comparative World Religions. Finally, some perspective! The JW world is so incredibly tiny.

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Is There Anything Positive About Being A Jehovah's Witness?

by minimus in

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i recently went to a wedding and the father of the bride that (re)married a (worldly) man said to me, "the only thing that i can say about raising our kids as witnesses was at least they got a good foundation.

look at our kids.

they're good kids".

BizzyBee

The kitchen went with this house.

Interesting landscaping. Minimalist?

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What would Jesus have to.......

by kerj2leev in

....change in order to be qualified for baptism (as a dub).

shave his beard.

cut his hair.

BizzyBee

Jesus relied on independent thinking. And he always hogged the microphone. Christ! You'd think everything he said was gospel! Never once used the name Jehovah, either. Never put anything in the contribution box. Balked at filling out time slips. Kind of a sad sack, too - almost like he expected to be beat up.

Acted like he never even heard of Brooklyn. Clueless!

Nope - bad clothes, bad grooming, bad attitude.

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Is There Anything Positive About Being A Jehovah's Witness?

by minimus in

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i recently went to a wedding and the father of the bride that (re)married a (worldly) man said to me, "the only thing that i can say about raising our kids as witnesses was at least they got a good foundation.

look at our kids.

they're good kids".

BizzyBee

Any positive identified assumes a gigantic leap of faith that these skills would not have been gained elsewhere or were not inherently present in you already. I think that is impossible to know. The only one I buy is that, yes, my ability to detect BS has been honed by my JW experience. But I'd probably have learned that too if I'd been raised by carnival hucksters.

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What would Jesus have to.......

by kerj2leev in

....change in order to be qualified for baptism (as a dub).

shave his beard.

cut his hair.

BizzyBee

Buy a cheap suit and a large briefcase.

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Should I marry a JW ?

by curiousabouthim in

i am new to the jw world, not one, but do love one.

met a man who down to the tee is amazing.

he is a great man, the only thing i am not so sure about is his "religious" beliefs.

BizzyBee

Yes, we talked about children, we both want children. As far as Christmas goes, I asked if our kids could spend time with Grandma and Grandpa at that time of year and he said yes. although he does want to teach them his beliefs., including his beliefs about Christmas.

Your children will be getting very conflicting information. If they side with their dad, they will come to despise you and the grandparents. Guaranteed.

He loves me unconditionally.

There will be conditions - guaranteed.