The confusing part is that some dubs are selective about adhering to the tenents of the WTS, perhaps because the WTS is also wishy-washy. On the issue of shunning relatives, the Society seems to 'tack' back and forth like a sailboat trying to catch the prevailing winds. Sometimes they are lenient, softer, kinder - but that stance is always inevitably followed by a period of cracking down - harsh, rigid, punitive.
Individual dubs are highly inconsistent in their application of the shunning dictum. My own JW mother refused to shun her children (one DFd, two disassociated) because of the WTS and ultimately wrote a letter of disassociation. My aunt (mom's sister) basically disowned and condemned her DFd daughter nearly 40 years ago, but now associates with other DFd family members.
I've known dubs who couldn't bring thremselves to put in more that 1 - 2 hours FS per month, couldn't coherently explain the Truth, but enthusiastically took to shunning like they were born to it.
I've known dubs who would rather die from lack of a blood transfusion than get up and give a talk.
I've been harshly shunned by family whom I loved and, years later, had the same family break bread with me in my home.
The inconsistency makes it all the more painful, because it does seem to be selective.
Peace - to two of my favorite posters, AG and OTWO.