Just my opinion, but it seems that men are given more leeway because it is felt that the sexual urge is so strong they can't always control it. The woman is also blamed (think Potifer's wife) for seducing him.
They think women's urges aren't as strong urges and they should be able to control them better than men.
Also, if a woman doesn't cry, she is seen as unrepentant. Makes me wonder if there are actually men who cry at their JC.