Posts by skeeter1

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Hello!

by mikeypants in

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friends

wanted to say hello to you all.

i am new to the forum and just wanted to introduce myself.

i was raised a witness, never baptized (yay) and am married to a lovely baptized witness of jehovah.. i had been trying to get back into it due to both our families being j dbs but just never could get it into my heart.

skeeter1

http://www.artofmanliness.com/2011/03/13/pregnant-wife/

http://pregnancy.thefuntimesguide.com/2009/08/dads_to_be.php

Just a few on the web "how to spoil pregnant wife"

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Hello!

by mikeypants in

jw
friends

wanted to say hello to you all.

i am new to the forum and just wanted to introduce myself.

i was raised a witness, never baptized (yay) and am married to a lovely baptized witness of jehovah.. i had been trying to get back into it due to both our families being j dbs but just never could get it into my heart.

skeeter1

Mikeypants, just wanted to say to give your wife alot of slack right now. She's pregnant. Dude, women can be emotional wrecks when pregnant. Cry at new car commercials. Lots of hormone surges during pregnancy and then a complete drop off after she has the baby. Maybe a wive's tale, but if she feels anxiety and insecurity, those fear hormones will transfer to the baby on board. So, don't "come out" to her or give her any reason right now. Wise generals pick their battlefields and time of battle. Now, is not the time. You are dealing with a lifelong cult programming, and a pregnant woman. Just pamper her, take her out for long walks, and let her enjoy life. By enjoying life, she'll not be enjoying the WTS. So, every now and then, have her skip meetings if she's too tired, don't make her sit/endure long times at the assemblies, cut back her field service time, etc . . . . all in the name of her resting to take care of the baby growing inside her. Tell her that other's can participate more in Jehovah's work, but right now she needs to be selfish and take care of herself first and foremost. Treat her like absolute royalty right now.

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Hello!

by mikeypants in

jw
friends

wanted to say hello to you all.

i am new to the forum and just wanted to introduce myself.

i was raised a witness, never baptized (yay) and am married to a lovely baptized witness of jehovah.. i had been trying to get back into it due to both our families being j dbs but just never could get it into my heart.

skeeter1

Welcome,

Boy, your wife must be hurt at her family's actions. Women plan and dream of a wedding, and having family members there to support the marraige. Does she see how abnormal her family & the KH elders were acting?

I had a similar thing happen. Both of us were raised in the Truth, but not baptised members. My parents decided that we HAD to be married in the KH. I didn't go, and didn't want it. But, it was my overbearing mother's plan. Thankfully, the elders wouldn't do it. So, that got my mom ticked off at me for not being a goody-JW. The next thing she concocted was to have my sibling (who is 18 years older) move in with us newlyweds. I wasn't asked, I was told that this was going to happen. We didn't have an extra bedroom, I put my foot down, she went ballistic, neither my mom nor my sibling came to my wedding, and she didn't speak with me for 3 months. It was a blow, but I thought of it more of her & my sister's mental issues.

All got normal, and we later had a baby. That's when my family sent local elders, JWs, and even they came to the house to try to convert us back to being JWs. I had to tell them all to go home. When they used to come to visit, they'd try to preach to my kids. I had to teach my kids how to avoid JW conversations. Luckily, I had a non-JW spouse.

Your situation is different. You need to look at the blood transfusion issues. Pregnant & birthing women & premature infants are more likely to need a blood transfusion. www.ajwrb.org.

JWs are idealists, and to hold up an ideal . . . they will do all sorts of abnormal, silly, and hurtful behavior.

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Family Gathering ( or the day also known as Thanksgiving)

by Theredeemer in

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every year on a certain thursday in november my family and close witness friends would get together, eat menudo ( hispanic stew) and other foods, watch football and then get dressed to go to the meeting.. sister so and so would bring her famous pie, bro and sister so and so would bring their gross punch and bro and sis so and so would bring mexican sweet bread.

sometimes we would go to "worldy" aunt's and pick up plates of turkey and fixins.. this was every year on a certain date, on a certain thursday in november.. this continued until my mom got alzheimers.

by that time i was married and had my own house.

skeeter1

Ha, ha! An atheist is better to a JW! LOL.

Skeeter

p.s. We had the same Thanksgiving, but it was just family. Always a traditioal family meal. We also had New Year's dinner on New Year's Day, always hte southern one. It had to be pork ribs, greens (for money for the New Year), and black eyed peas (for luck for the New Year). And, my JW uber-sister still makes it and SERVES it with the reminder too eat our greens and black eyed peas for money & luck. Yep, she even did it last year. I thought I was going to fall out of the chair. LOL

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Reverse Disfellowshipping

by ctrwtf in

i'm into the 7th year of a successful fade.

when i'm at the market i still see some of my former "friends" trying to avoid eye contact.

although i'm not df'd i may as well be in their eyes.

skeeter1

I put up with that feeling of cringe and doom for 7 years. I finally blocked them from my e-mail and my personal Facebook page. I felt that they were judging me constantly. Rather, I know they were. My JW family live about 700 miles away, but their comments to me and to other extended family members showed their judgmental attitude. I cringe when they come to visit, or when I have to endure a weekend/week with them. What's funy is that my clinger-JW would invite the JW family down to visit her, but would then dump the JW family on me! The JW family members have disrespected me and my spouse too many times, for what would be normal decisions of any other house (having a dog, buying a new truck, allowing our kid to go to a friend's birthday). Thankfully, my non-JW brother-in-law, neice, and own brother reported back to me all their digs. It was clear that the JW relatives were just lurking on Facebook to see what our life was like, so they could judge. Oh, and the JW family is having Thanksgiving and asked me to come. I declined. I need a break from their pious judgement.

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Bill Cosby - too much smoke for no fire?

by Simon in

it seems like the list of people who are accusing him of rape and sexual assault is growing every day.

i'm skeptical of single accusations but the number of people and the similar stories seem overwhelming now.. it's not a conviction but to the court of public opinion ... guilty?.

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skeeter1

Dr. Jeckyll and Mr. Hyde?

254

Michael Brown verdict discussion policy

by Simon in

it's likely that the grand jury verdict on the michael brown incident will be released in the coming days or weeks.. i've no doubt many people are going to feel strongly about things whatever the verdict is.. whatever the outcome though, here's what's not going to happen:.

we're not going to put up with inflamatory language and comments designed to rile others up.

be respectful.. we will not allow accusations of racism simply because some have a view of the verdict that contradicts others.. there will not be invented evidence or claims being repeated - if it's been falsely reported or debunked then it's off limits.. it's not going to be an opportunity for people to air past gripes over past discussions.. if you feel that you cannot discuss the subject in a rational way then it may be better to simply avoid any topics on the matter.. please try to be objective and respectful if you do decide to comment and not keen to take offense.

skeeter1

Until newspapers and society can choose to look at the full facts and not cherry pick, they are choosing to live a delusional life. Delusion cannot solve problems.

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Great news!!!

by truthseekeriam in

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friends

i recently found out that my family's horriable experience helped one mother decide to never go back!!

in turn, her 2 teenage children have been living normal lives.

i can't tell you how happy i am for them..

skeeter1

Yeah! Perhaps you can get together with them during the Holidays, even if it's just meeting for lunch.

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Attracting young ones to the org

by Gratefullyunstuck in

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friends

noticing a lot of posts and behaviours of the org that they seem to be trying to appeal to the younger generation.

im wondering if they are jumping on the back of a popular young clothing brand called jack wills.. a lot of their clothes have jw logo on them.

i wonder when searching this logo 'jw' on internet, where the search takes them?....................hmmmmmm!.

skeeter1

Prince could give a concert?

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Michael Brown verdict discussion policy

by Simon in

it's likely that the grand jury verdict on the michael brown incident will be released in the coming days or weeks.. i've no doubt many people are going to feel strongly about things whatever the verdict is.. whatever the outcome though, here's what's not going to happen:.

we're not going to put up with inflamatory language and comments designed to rile others up.

be respectful.. we will not allow accusations of racism simply because some have a view of the verdict that contradicts others.. there will not be invented evidence or claims being repeated - if it's been falsely reported or debunked then it's off limits.. it's not going to be an opportunity for people to air past gripes over past discussions.. if you feel that you cannot discuss the subject in a rational way then it may be better to simply avoid any topics on the matter.. please try to be objective and respectful if you do decide to comment and not keen to take offense.

skeeter1

It's clear that Mr. Brown was not a hero or a martyr, that the community & black leaders rushed to put him on a pedastal.

Honestly, it reminds me of the JW leadership. They find a story, make it into what they want the story to be by embellishing it, and having someone put their version out as an actual story at an assembly to garner guilt.

I am not saying that police brutality and racism/profiling does not happen. It surely does happen. But, you can't pin your hopes on the parties in a single case until you know more facts. You can't condemn a police officer and martyr a man, prematurely. Because, isn't that racism in reverse?