I would definitely be dead, not from suicide but from the stress of pretending to be someone I'm not. By the time I left my health was fading and I felt an old man at 40ish. Now that I am my genuine self, my health is near perfect. No medications, no mental/emotional issues and I am much more relaxed, unless I have an extra espresso in the morning!
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If You Were Still "In The Truth" What Type of Life Would You Have?
by minimus indo you think you would be just going thru the motions?
would you be an elder, ms, or pioneer?.
i think there are many that stay in the religion simply because of family/friends considerations.
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Jws and poverty
by Julia Orwell inwhen i say poverty, i mean not knowing where your next meal is coming from or being unable to pay your bills or afford necessary medicines poverty.
i'm talking the kinds of poor people who have to get food from charities kind of poor, or long term unemployment living in a trailer/caravan kind of poor.
holes in clothes poor.
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doofdaddy
Maybe these type of people never get the chance to be jws because they are not on a territory map (homeless) and let's face it, jws are judgemental. Who's going to "witness" to the wino in the park, people living on the fringes of society. Sure some witnesses will preach to anyone but the majority don't want to return visit to a hovel or bush camp. Jws are a very middle class attempt at religion.
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A DOUBLE LIFE - What's the worst case you've seen
by sizemik inlots of jw's lead a double life.
many are young people that simply go through the motions until they can free themselves .
others have relatives or family still trapped .
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doofdaddy
There was a guy who became a jw around the time I did. We became fast friends via surfing etc. Over the years we both got married and had kids. I was always amazed how he had a such a comfortable lifestyle. Money was never an issue. I also wondered why he knocked back" privileges" as the elders seeing he was such a good business man would make a great ms or elder..... We lost contact.
20 yrs go past and we both also end up out and so does the (real) truth. He was growing massive amounts of hydro marijuana the whole time!! Marketing via family connections. Legend!!
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How bad is the nepotism really with the appointments of elders?
by toto555 ini've seen brothers related or who are friends of elders who get appointed after only 6-12 months as an m.s.
while they were other brothers slaving away for years.
elders also who promote their sons and basically say to other young brothers "to heck with everyone else".
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doofdaddy
LOL!
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How bad is the nepotism really with the appointments of elders?
by toto555 ini've seen brothers related or who are friends of elders who get appointed after only 6-12 months as an m.s.
while they were other brothers slaving away for years.
elders also who promote their sons and basically say to other young brothers "to heck with everyone else".
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doofdaddy
That's correct Julia but the jws are god's holy appointed (only true) source of truth.
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Do you frown upon tattoos?
by confusedandalone ini am very interested in hearing from people who really think that people with tattoos are somehow weird or cagey individuals.
i would just like to get your outlook on this matter.
today i was in a grocery store and i sawe this guy with his two kids and his wife shopping.
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doofdaddy
I hate suits they repulse me!. You don't see them where I work. Oh and I cringe when I see old people wearing them, trying to look young, embarrassing...Suits are a sign of class distinction and corporate criminals which reminds me of prison gangs. operating out of jails.
Of course I don't believe this. It's just to indicate the judgements that we carry especially as exjws.
The same could be said for dying your hair, beards and on...
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The medical specialist told me something alarming today. Pretty bummed.
by Julia Orwell inso i've been going to doctors for years with chronic fatigue, a condition i managed ok but which took a drastic nose dive in late 2011 to 2012 to the point where i could barely function.
work was part of the problem, so at the end of that year i left that stressful environment.
but in the meantime, for the last few years i've been going to doctors, specialists, psychiatrists and psychologists and undergoing every sort of blood test you can imagine and seeing all sorts of medical people.
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doofdaddy
Good choice as the hourly rate is worth it. Over the years at times I was a teacher's aide in Primary and Secondary schools and have a few mate who are teachers, so I know the system. Don't forget to have fun Julia! Oh as far as a house, yeah I know the story but for me after 2 marriages and two houses (gone, one nearly beach front at B Bay ((you know south of you)) I rent very happily...
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The medical specialist told me something alarming today. Pretty bummed.
by Julia Orwell inso i've been going to doctors for years with chronic fatigue, a condition i managed ok but which took a drastic nose dive in late 2011 to 2012 to the point where i could barely function.
work was part of the problem, so at the end of that year i left that stressful environment.
but in the meantime, for the last few years i've been going to doctors, specialists, psychiatrists and psychologists and undergoing every sort of blood test you can imagine and seeing all sorts of medical people.
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doofdaddy
Drs can only go as far as their training, even specialists. They look at results of tests and want physical evidence of illness. My opinion is that you were dying as a witness, physically, mentally, emotionally. Your mind wanted to continue but your body refused. One thing about a massive trauma (like leaving your spiritual family) is the opportunity to be born again in the real sense but like a new born all has to be learned with many falls. But guess what? Before you know it you're walking without having to think about it. You're young and have plenty of time. Work is "meh" don't stress it. Hubby can take the slack until you are good and ready or if not, sell the house or whatever. Take it easy on yourself as we only get one life....
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Here's IRONY for you
by Hortensia inhttp://www.washingtonpost.com/business/technology/major-tech-companies-unite-to-call-for-new-limits-on-surveillance/2013/12/08/530f0fd4-6051-11e3-bf45-61f69f54fc5f_story.html.
imagine -- google is protesting that the government spies too much.
pot calling kettle black?.
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doofdaddy
Wasn't it Google which said there is no such thing as privacy anymore? Hmmm champions of the "little guys"...I don' think so!
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Quite an interesting first meeting with my Therapist.
by truthseekeriam inthe moment i mentioned jehovah's witnesses he headed over to his file cabinet and handed me this print out.. .
dear beloved one, .
i see your loneliness and fears.
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doofdaddy
IMO for what it's worth, the danger is "preaching to the converted" as far as jws. You are clearly not happy with your experience( extremely understandable), he is confirming that by his response, so what is the point of continued sessions? I see counselling as challenging strongly held beliefs. Then, once clearly mapped out, it's up to the client to make decisions about the future and even about long held beliefs about past experiences. The goal is greater understanding of self and hopefully personal growth.
You say he went "on and on" another red flag as a therapist. It is your session. You are paying for it and you are there to get clarity around your past experience, not listen to (a poorly presented) religious judgement.
Seriously, where is this heading? Did he give you an outline for future sessions?