This is all good advice- just what I need. I'm sure we all know how much it helps. I just realized that I left out yet another important part of the soap opera....
When her parents found out about us, she was in new mexico w/ her brother visiting his girlfriend and her fam. I'm not sure why, but her parents confronted me while she was there. Probably because we were apart and wouldn't be able to communicate. Anyway, her brother, after he found out ,was very mean to her for the remainder of their trip. He asked her, "How can you be in love with someone that already has a kid?" She told him it didn't matter and I was a good person. He then said,"From now on you aren't my sister anymore." He is older too (21) but apparently very immature and has such a lack of compassion, a lack of knowledge of human emotion. She was miserable for the rest of her "vacation".
The day after her parents found out, her father called me and asked me not to call her while she was in New Mexico because it was ruining the brother's vacation. I agreed, but she ended up calling me. Her parents were tracking the phone use online. I didn't want to call her because she is in new mexico and here I am in Florida living only two miles away from her parents. So I didn't know if her father would have come over here to my house or something. I just can't talk to her parents. They have VERY strong accents and just looking at them is intimidating. Anyway, the night after she arrived back in Florida, she called me on her way home from work. She sounded excited and said, "Remember how you said we have never had a real date before?" (I had said this a few months earlier.)"Well we might be able to do that tonight." She said that her dad was going to allow us to talk somewhere all by ourselves-NO CHAPERONE! We were just going to go to the movies or something. She said that she just had to shower and that she waould call me. So it's about 7:15 p.m. and my phone rings- it's her mother. She starts telling me that She WILL NOT ALLOW THIS! (even though the father said it would be OK - I think mother is the head of household) She told me that her daughter has a lot of growing up to do and I should be telling her to stay away from me. So here I am put in this position. i should be telling my gf to stay away from me!!!! Because I am the older one -what is that??? How do you put someone in that position?? I just answered "yes" to everything her mother said and meanwhile, my gf has called me (on her cell) 4 times on the other line. I thought this was weird b/c they are in the same house. I told her mother that I had to click over. My gf was crying uncontrollably. She said her mother and she just got into a huge fight- her mother put her up aganst the wall and was shaking her. I guess she told her that she wouldn't leave the house w/o being black and blue. I thought that was nice. So my gf wanted me to pick her up. Keep in mind I have never been to this house before (well at least when her parents were there). I told her that wouldn't be a good idea. This is because her parents said that they could take my child away from me.Bbecause we were sort of seeing each other when she was 17 and they could press charges. So I didn't know how serious they were, but I was not at all willing to get my son involved in this. I doubt they could even do anything b/c we had barely even kissed up to that point.(I think)
Anyway while we were on the phone she said that she was going to tell them that she didn't care and was going over to see me. I said "if you do that, make sure they aren't going to call the police or something." So we hung up and she was going to either come over or call depending on what their reaction was. I was very nervous, b/c I was expecting this big scene at my house which I really did not want. She called me and said that It probably wouldn't have been a good idea for her to come over. They said they would call the police. So we just talked on the phone. I was talking to her about the year 1914 and how they still believe that the world will end before the last person born in or before 1914 dies. I said, "What are you going to do when the last person from that year or before dies??" She said, "I guess I won't believe it anymore." WELL.................apparently her mother was listening to her conversation through the bedroom door and didn't like hearing her daughter say that. She started knocking on the door and I could hear my gf saying, "what do you want? what do you want? why can't you talk to me through the door?" Then there was screaming she said "They're trying to break down my door !!!!!!!" and the phone hung up. Needless to say I was freaked out, heart racing, not knowing what to do. So I got in my car and went over there- drove around the house a few times. I thought I saw someone run out so I came back around, but no one was there. I parked my car down the street and stood in front of her house for about 45 minutes. I could hear her- she was sitting outside coughing. They took her phone away from her so we couldn't talk but I was standing right outside and she didn't know it. I didn't want to make myself heard b/c her father could probably get violent.
Around 1:15 a.m. my phone rings- it;s her and everything sounds fine. She said she was reading Scriptures with her father. I got very very mad. I told her "well I guess you have made your decision then" She said, "I haven't made any decision." I don't remember what else we talked about b/c I was so angry that before she was basically telling me that she was afraid to be in her house and now she's reading Scriptures with her father.
more to come.....maybe
