I'll make this short, but I've been looking for answers and need actual human communication- not just a book or website.
Up until 12/26/04, my "girlfriend" and I had been sneaking around to see each other. We became professionals. She would always say "I shouldn't be doing this" and such, but eventually that mindset wore away and our love took over. We had been together for about 4-5 months when she told me she loved me. You have to understand we had a ridiculously intense connection when we first met. We couldn't be without each other. It was difficult though, when she would have to whisper in our phone conversations or duck if a car was coming by my house when she was there. But it didn't matter, I loved her and nothing could come between that......Until her parents discovered our relationship on the above date(12/26). We had been in this relationship now for almost 10 months and had become quite a part of each other. So her parents confronted me at work and basically said that if I want a chance with their daughter, then I need to start studying to become a JW. I was pretty nervous in the first place, so I just nodded my head to everything. I'm quite educated on the religion and they didn't know that nor did I make it known that I was. My girlfriend had even been saying that she couldn't defend her religion anymore. I had been mentioning to her "apostate literature" and some of the reasoning (i.e. "Crisis of Conscience"). So when her parents got a hold of her, her mindset totally changed. She knew that if she were to be with me, she would lose all of her family and friends (which I find revolting), so she couldn't go against their demands. They cut off from her all communication with me so that I couldn't "lure" her back to me. They took her cell phone and have to this day not given it back to her. (I guess other factors would be our age difference-i'm 24 she's 18-and I have a two year old son out of wedlock). I understand her parents anger, but it's not like our relationship will be OK in the future. The ONLY WAY is for me to become a witness. There is NO COMPROMISE. I am a good person and she knows this, but the religion seems to be stronger than our love. She maintains, after all of this, that she knows I am the person she was meant to be with, but still sticks with the faith. I need help and advice. There are many MANY more details to this story, and I would love to share more. I'm open to all opinions. THANK YOU!