Sugarbritches,
Dont pineforever for your friend, but nevercount him out. My best friend and I have been together almost 12 years now. I was on my ay back in the cong when she was just learning. Then she gotbaptized and I DFed. Then no contact for years, then one day I called. She was inactive and going thru a divorce. So like any idiot would do, with her support and praise I married her ex husband. Now he is a freak, we are divorcing... I am DFed still and she nor he are, but way, way should be, at anyrate, several states and years later, we all work in the same building and she is still my best friend.
She has been patient with me while I learned things she knew from being"worldly" and I have been patient while she has learned to be patient and more mild tempered "all those goody goody things I learned while young". If God ever made two friends more the opposite and yet enwine our fates so close please let me know.
It has been years and despite my being on one end at times and her the other, she is truly my sister. Closer than allmy biological sisters and brothers or the family who has not seen any light yet. You might remember that JW is a brainwashing and in order to really break out, you have to look in. Maybe your friend is not at this point yet, but there comes a day when most people (if they are thinking folk) have to talk to the truth that sits in the corner of thier mind and figure out the big answer WHY? Sometimes it takes year, sometimes it never happens, but I feel there is always hope. The tangled lives of DF'ed and non DF'ed have a way of changing on a dime. Sometimes and more often than not...the same as a JW is taught to lead by example, a disfellowshipped person (or hurt person) has to sit back and be the bigger person and wait. Wait on time and never be quick to cut people off. despite how you have been treated. People grow at different speeds.
That is all...hope it helps