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  I FEEL SO USED

  by Serena in

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  i have been "fooling around" with brother charlie for a couple months.

  going to his apartment and spending the night with him.

  i am so in love with him, i would do anything for him, anything at all.

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  BobsGirl

  Serena,

  I was in a very similar situation just before leaving the borg .... I was desperately obsessed with a man who couldn't/wouldn't commit to a relationship. He played the yo yo game with me ... and this normally rational fairly sane female became a drooling idiot in angst constantly fearing the loss of "my man". It took a very long time for him to drag me so low that it was no longer worth it ... and when I finally reached that point, I realized that not only did I despise him ... I was pretty darn disgusted with me.

  Less than a year later I met Bob. He loves me unconditionally ….. is proud of me .... he is so kind and tender that to this day he can move me to tears. He is strong in all of my shaky places and I am strong in his. We are partners and best friends. I like the me that I am with him. I am SO grateful that I was free to love him when he came into my life.

  When I look back now, it still makes me sad and a little sick to my stomach to think of the degradation that I willingly subjected myself to for so long.

  The fact is ... you are choosing this misery. You CAN make a different choice. There is life after obsession, and it is a better life. I am not saying that it won't hurt; I am not saying that it won't be the hardest thing you have ever had to do..... I am saying that it will be worth it.

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  Who Wants A Christmas Card?

  by Englishman in

  1. jw
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  i want to send lots of christmas greetings cards this year.

  i especially want to send a card to dozens of posters from this site.

  i suppose the obvious answer is that folks email me with an address.

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  BobsGirl

  Jumping up and down waving arms in air........

  "Me too ... Don't forget me!"

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  I wasn't sure where to post this ??

  by closer2fine in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  since there isn't an "other" forum.. my hubby is a die-hard regular razor kinda guy.

  i want to buy him a nice electric (or cordless) shaver for christmas (help cut his shave time in half).

  i went to consumer reports to see what they said - and they haven't reviewed it.. does anyone have any recommendations?.

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  lol Billygoat ..... You are so right!

  It smells much better though!

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  Name that TV program

  by WildHorses in

  1. jw
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  i was at work tonight and we were joking around and talking about old shows we used to watch while growing up.

  i thought it would be fun if we wrote a line from a show and see if we could guess what show it came from.

  my name is lenny, and if i ain't got it, there isn't any.

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  BobsGirl

  Ding Ding ...... Conflicted.

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  I wasn't sure where to post this ??

  by closer2fine in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  since there isn't an "other" forum.. my hubby is a die-hard regular razor kinda guy.

  i want to buy him a nice electric (or cordless) shaver for christmas (help cut his shave time in half).

  i went to consumer reports to see what they said - and they haven't reviewed it.. does anyone have any recommendations?.

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  BobsGirl

  I bought my husband a Norelco ... I can't remeber the style but it is the kind that dispenses lotion and is waterproof. It is dark blue .... He loves it ...... clean shaves and no iritation.

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  Feedback needed please

  by MrMoe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my sister in-law is a 10th grade honors student.

  she is 14 and currently enrolled in english ii - a required course.

  she and her fellow students are studing the holocaust in thier honors english class.. the teacher has instructed them to do the following:.

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  BobsGirl

  Mommy ....

  I will be haunted by your description of that accident for a long time...

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  Feedback needed please

  by MrMoe in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  my sister in-law is a 10th grade honors student.

  she is 14 and currently enrolled in english ii - a required course.

  she and her fellow students are studing the holocaust in thier honors english class.. the teacher has instructed them to do the following:.

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  BobsGirl

  I find it odd that some wouldn't allow their kids to see these things in a real life scenario, but I betcha these same 14 year olds have seen a million R-rated movies like Silence of the Lambs or Hannibal. Which is better, to be entertained by gore or to realize it's real, and it isn't funny. As for myself, I choose NOT to watch violent movies. Why should I want to be entertained by images of death? Real people are living real lives where there is no director poised to shout, "CUT!"

  Excellent point!!

  My two cents worth. I believe that your sister-in-law is being presented with a real learning opportunity here.

  She can watch and feel excruciatingly uncomfortable .... and grieve for the loss of many innocent lives. She can choose to remember that grief and make different choices than she might have had she not been touched by it.

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  She could choose to stand up and fight for her right not to participate in an assignment that she finds offensive.

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  She could have someone else fight for her in an effort to protect her from something that might be both excruciatingly uncomfortable and offensive.

  Any way you cut it, she is going to learn from this. Which lesson would she deem most valuable?? Which one would you have her pass on to her children??

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  Sex during pregnancy........

  by LDH in

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  sucks.. or is it just me?.

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  BobsGirl

  I am sorry for your experience Billygoat, but I am of the belief that man has invented only three truly great things .... the flush toilet .... the telephone .... and the depo provera shot! I LOVE it ... No cramping ... no menstruation .... and it is as effective as a tubal ligation. My husband will also attest to the fact that it doesn't always decrease libido ....

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  The JW religion or the person, whose fault is it?

  by larc in

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  i just read the tragic story of the man in chicago who beat his daughter to death.

  i have read stories here and on silentlambs about sexual abuse.. my question is: how much fault can be placed on the religion and how much on the perversions of a particular individual?

  i frankly don't know the answer to this question.

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  Perhaps the religion sets up certain conditions that can allow these kinds of horrific events to occur. On the other hand, most people do not succumb to such evil, even if the system makes allowances for it.

  I have to agree with you on this one.... I think that the WTBS does create an environment that is extremely attractive and even protective of perpetrators of many different kinds of abuse. I also think that this does not absolve the offender of their personal responsibilities for their actions.

  In the end ... both are guilty...

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi
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  The Flight Attendant and Me

  by Thirdson in

  1. jw
  2. friends

  in politically correct america the wait staff on airliners are not termed stewards and stewardesses but rather flight attendants.

  after joel bear (no offense joel, and i love you like a brother, but no more .

  six years ago i was living in an apartment in the minneapolis suburbs.

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  BobsGirl

  What I wanna know is .... why do so many gay men hit on me????

  BobsGirl

  "May the work of your hands be a sign of gratitude and reverence to the human condition." - Mahatma Gandhi