I'm off to have dinner at my brother's home.
I hope everyone is having a nice day with all the hugs and smiles you can collect!!
Enjoy!!
-Aude.
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i'm off to have dinner at my brother's home.. i hope everyone is having a nice day with all the hugs and smiles you can collect!!.
enjoy!!.
I'm off to have dinner at my brother's home.
I hope everyone is having a nice day with all the hugs and smiles you can collect!!
Enjoy!!
-Aude.
it's been a long time since i posted here.
merry christmas!
:d hope everyone is in good spirits.
Another way this board is unlike the organization.
Gone for a year and you are still welcomed. And still counted among the group!!
No suspicions, no accusations, no guilt.
Thanks for posting!! :D
(Have you been visiting other boards?? We may have to convene a special session with you...!!)
with his wife to say that it's been 3 months since my daughter's wedding and in october he got deleted for going to it even though the presiding overseer told him it was a "conscience matter.
period.
".....the circuit overseer saw it differently and removed my friend as an elder amd my mom as a regular pioneer because of a letter sent only to circuit overseers in 1999!!!!
I want to scream after reading this...!!!! ARRRRGGGHHHH!!!!!!
WTF makes these people think that they can yank someone's chain on a whim?
Sooo many rules. Aparently made by people that have no children, no natural affection and no conscience.
My mom threatened not to go to my (unbaptized) brother's wedding to a witness because the future daughter-in-law was marrying out of the truth!!
At the last minute (2 days before the wedding) she decided that she would attend as she was told that it was really a conscience matter. Then she told us that she wanted to help with the arrangements and was offended when we would not let her make changes. She refused to pay since she had no say in flowers and cake.
AAARRRRGGGGGHHHHH!!!!!! Those people are crazy-making.
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anything that you think effectively gets a jw to re-think their position on things or their beliefs, in general?
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Seed of doubt. That worked for me. And not by someone intentionally getting me to leave.
That seed was of the extremely unloving act of dis-association. To the point of treating strangers more lovingly than 'one of our own' in their time of need.
I started to see it as extremely hypocritical. And it was just a single thought presented by someone unintentionally.
14 years later I got up the courage to look at apostate sites. I now wish I had done this years ago. So much MORE wasted time feeling guilty about not wanting to continue as a witness.
Anything more than that seed of doubt and I would have completely shut down my receptors.
this is the first year i have sent any at all.
i have just got one from the neighbour two doors down, last minute so to speak.
tell me what is the etiquette here.
I've been sending cards to my customers at work for 2 years now. This year I sent to only about 3 friends.
Funny, for 12 years that I was a witness, one of my projects was organization the sending of about 3000 cards for my employer. Big project. We always shot to get our cards postmarked on December 1st.
I like Tally's info on 'how to' keep a list. I might try something like that. Just where to keep the list so I can find it next year??!!?!
As far as sending to someone that you have not spoken to all year... I think it's still great to send/receive a card from that distant friend/relative. This week I got a card from the wife of my cousin in upstate NY. I met her once, for about 2minutes, 13 years ago. I was touched. I may just send a reciprocal card this week with a short note of thanks!!
I want to send to family but after 35 years of no cards (and mother and sister are still witnesses) I don't feel comfortable about sending to family who may 'tattle' on me!!!
i am sure i am not the only one that thinks it's ridiculous that they allow pre-teens and young teens to get baptized.
i know now that i did not have a full understanding of the implications of baptism.
i did it primarily because that's what was expected.
I don't so much have trouble with baptism of young teens but HUGE problems on their treatment if and when they themselves realize that the organization is not for them.
Because of the shunning later, teens do not realize the full implication of their actions. Baptism is the one action that could fully shut out their family forever. That is unconscientionable (sp?).
many of us here have been touched by mario's (utopian reformist) situation.
his life has taken an incredible spin and has thrown him into some pretty tough situations.. if you haven't read the situation, here's the thread:.
http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/8/80403/1.ashx.
I have a brother that may help. He's a drummer and writes songs as a hobby.
Unfortunately, like most drummers, he's poor. - !!
You are in Canada and he's in Southern California. Logistically this endevour is challenged.
Feel free to PM me if you want.
do you still go to the memorial?
and if not is this a reason to dfs you?.
and if or when you stopped going did you feel guilty?.
Don't know that I would want to lie to a friend.
Could you just tell that you have not been so regular in attending and really don't want to attend while she is visiting either?
Be honest and tell her that you don't want to talk about but also value her friendship and don't want your 'time out' to affect it?
dear friends:.
i found out on friday evening, my brother-in-law has cancer.
we don't know much at this point, but the prognosis is not good.
One thing keeps screaming in my head.
The man in the bed next to your brother-in-law. It's really unfair of him to impose his therapy on you and your family at a time like this. There has to be a way to tactfully but firmly get him to keep his religious (and other - !) views to himself.
My core support group was extremely protective of my boundaries and were fearless in speaking up when I was not able to.
To bring quality to what life I had, I determined to live in the moment. Things got too complicated when I looked too far back (anger/confusion) or too far ahead (fear/anger) so I determined to stay in the moment. I got pretty good at it and for the most part I determined how I wanted my 'moments' to be. My core support group (about 3 people) knew what I wanted, too. Usually I could create my 'moments' by moving to a different room or ending a phone call, changing a subject, or telling someone that I really was not up to hearing their story. If I could not find the right words, with just a glance, my caregivers were quick to speak on my behalf.
I think I would scream and waste alot of energy if I had to listen to someone preach at me things that I did not want to hear. Especially when dealing with something as serious as a cancer diagnosis.
Find a way to get them privacy and sunshine (figurative sunshine, perhaps). Make as many pleasant moments as you can. Deal with the crappy stuff when you have to but shift to the nicer moments whenever possible.
do you still go to the memorial?
and if not is this a reason to dfs you?.
and if or when you stopped going did you feel guilty?.
On the memorial subject...
There is a scripture that says: For as often as you eat this loaf and drink this cup, you keep proclaiming the death of the lord, until he arrives.
I had trouble with this. If he 'arrived' in 1914, why were we still memorializing his death?
Sorry to go off subject...