the reality is NATO is not a military force that attacks first.
That’s actually wrong. It may surprise people to find out (it certainly shocked me) but NATO have a first strike policy for their nuclear arsenal if they believe nuclear war is imminent. They were invited the join a pact that committed to “no first strike” and they refused because they want to keep the option of first strike open. Russia’s policy is no first strike unless they face an “existential threat”.
Not only does NATO have a first strike policy with nuclear weapons (and lets be real, by NATO we mean the United States, as others have no say in the matter) but some American strategists are now arguing that they can win a nuclear war with Russia if they do strike first.
So while we are all worrying about the “crazy” Russians starting a nuclear war, are we really sure that the United States won’t “preemptively” strike Russia instead? The US of course is the only nation crazy enough thus far to have used nuclear weapons in war.
https://tnsr.org/roundtable/its-time-for-a-u-s-no-first-use-nuclear-policy/