Posts by AuntieJane

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I'm new to the forum and desperate for support

by muse in

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friends

i will be very brief on my introduction as i need to get straight to the point.

i was raised in the 'truth' from birth.

i got baptized at 16 (elder dad hassled me) and managed to do the 'slow fade' at 18 (it helped that i moved 50 miles away from home).

AuntieJane

Hello and welcome Muse! Sounds like you have done better than many at dealing with your JW family.

I never was a JW but I did have colon cancer 5 years ago. My polyp was not benign, I had about 18 inches of colon removed, and all went well.

If your father has a good surgeon, the procedure should go just fine. It is not a fun process, but it is not as life-threatening as you may envision. Be strong, have Faith in God that he will pull your dad through, and that He will provide some peace for you too! I mainly want you to know you may be over-stressing, which I myself tend to do! So, please, take it easy on yourself.

I wish you both well, please keep us posted.

AJ

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Totally screwed up.

by betrayedbyall in

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friends

hi, its been a few months since i last visited the forum and to be honest in that time my life has just continued to go downhill, does it ever get any easier guys, i have been so close to ending it all a few times and dont know how much longer i can take the anquish and pain which i feel every day !!!!!!!!.

i now have no job, no friends, and no desire to fight anymore, i sit here day after day just wanting to sleep so that the mental pain will go away and yet i want peace so much.. my old mum who turns 80 next month, and who has been a witness for 50 years, has been so hurt by the events that led to my dissasociation she has now stopped going to the kingdoom hall, but i can see how sad and confused she is and i feel i have caused her great hurt in her later years, she has a bad heart and looks so worn down, i am worried sick she may pass away in this condition and this is tearing me apart also.

you might remember i lost my job after 28 years after being bullied and putting in a claim of harrasment, i then started up my own business and 10 witnesses worked for me, the lies and deceit was beyond words and in the end i had to close most of the business down, after that it was only myself and a non witness friend who were working together.

AuntieJane

Hi Betrayed, you are in my thoughts and prayers. I am so relieved to hear you have take the first step on the road to recovery. Remember, sometimes there are 3 steps forward, 2 steps back. But keep trudging on and with medical help and the great people on this board, you will MAKE IT!

Auntie J

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father's day

by georgefoster in

what's the jw take on father's day?

my wife's jw and i've got two stepkids and one bio kid.

every holiday is awkward because wife lets me "celebrate" with the kids as long as she doesn't actively participate.

AuntieJane

Hmmm....so maybe George can give a directive on their anniversary, that he doesn't believe God wants us to celebrate it; would her eyes open up at all to the stupidity of the holiday ban by the WTS? (they are allowed to celebrate anniversaries, but since he is head of household, he could put his foot down on her only real holiday and see how it feels!)

just my thoughts,

aj

31

Question About The Religion

by ImACatholic in

jehovah's witnesses do not believe or teach some of the very basic tenets of christian doctrine.

1. the trinity.

2. the omnipresence of god.

AuntieJane

Hello ImaCatholic. I am too. It appears you are here because your son has a friend who is JW? You are welcome to PM me.

I think you came on a bit stronger than most first-time posters here. Don't be dissuaded by some of the comment's you'll get.

Most of the people on this board have suffered with the teachings of the JW cult....and have turned from God, which is OK if that works for them. We who have never been JW can't really fathom what years of cult-teachings can do to a person.

Stick around, learn a lot, and write me if you are so inclined.

AuntieJane

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Had a jw non-father's day today

by georgefoster in

my jw step-son (age 7) asked me if today was father's day.

then he brought me a present.

jw wife stayed in the other room.

AuntieJane

Well, happy non Father's day, or whatever. It would be nice to know you just gave him a hug and told him that

everyday is Father's Day, but this day is really special. What kind of relationship do you have with the kid? You

can make a real impression on him, just by showing him Non JW love. Boys, especially, need to have a man

in their lives who isn't afraid to show feelings.

AuntieJane

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JW family

by goldie in

has anyone attempted to pull out a jw family member?

especially a jw who was raised in the oganization!

!

AuntieJane

Hi Goldie and welcome! What is the situation? Has the family member been baptized? Sometimes they were raised but never baptized? Is he/she married, is the spouse a JW? There are many factors.

There are people here who have success stories, but I think they are the minority. I was never a JW, but a good friend of mine who had a sister in tried for years to show her some things and finally had to accept and love her sister, and leave religion out of their conversations, in order to remain friends. It was very hard for her to do. Surprisingly, one of the sister's kids left the JW when he grew up and married. The Mom still keeps contact with him, he is not shunned at least. So that is a good thing.

I'd like to hear more about your situation.

AuntieJ

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Hello

by Amionne in

i just joined here so i'm not completely familiar with the forum code.

well, i'm going to be baptized in less than a month and i was wondering if i can find any friends among my peers or anyone around my age.

you see, my congregation was split up almost three years ago.

AuntieJane

I have a feeling uncle will warn her to stay away from this site. But I am saying a little prayer that she comes back

anyway ... there are so many wonderful people to learn from. She'd learn so much more by spending time here.

Hopefully,

AuntieJane

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how to live with JW

by freefly in

hey,.

my partner in life (26yrs) has been converted to jw by his mother.. i am not one to whine -as very aware many have more troubles in their life.. i suppose one of my fears has been this exactly- as i know he was raised jw and should have saw the "signs.

" he always regularly visited with his mom, which i respected as felt a good sign he had a mother/son relationship.

AuntieJane

So, Freefly, it appears you have what it takes to get out of the situation, and I am SO glad your kids are not

little ones. SO, now when do you make the big leap out? You say you are staying around to watch him live

this JW life...how long is that going to be?

Just curious, I do wish you all the best,

AuntieJane

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I just turned 28, two minutes ago. What advice can you give me?

by el jarocho mayor in

jw
friends

well, what advice can you give me?

AuntieJane

Have a Happy One! Stay sane, but have a few for us here on the board....

and don't follow Dan's advice, he kinda scares me

21

Tom Cruise & Katie Holmes Get Engaged

by sandy in

<div>just wondering what some of your thoughts on this are.

i shouldn't care but i do.

but i'll save my negative, non-sense comments for later.</div>

AuntieJane

I feel sorry for her, she seems so into Tom and so naive. Did you read where he "interviewed" some other actresses, pushed his Scientology beliefs on them...and they either didn't fit his requirements after the interviews, or at least one of them ran. Wish I was up on actresses, but I'm not. However, there is a big story going around on this. Katie seems to have gulped it all up.

The other thing that worries me...have you seen the lady Tom has hired, a Scientologist higher up, to shadow Katie and make sure she says and does the right things? Scary!