these last 2 months have been the worst of my life.
i can only answer my subject question by saying the purpose of life is the 4 things sought after in the wizard of oz: love, courage, intelligence, and home.. and we all possess them whether we know it or not.
and especially love.
Cygnus, The words posted here from friends speak volumes. If only others in your position had so much support!
SERENITY PRAYER
GOD, GRANT ME THE SERENITY TO ACCEPT THE THINGS I CANNOT CHANGE, COURAGE TO CHANGE THE THINGS I CAN; AND THE WISDOM TO KNOW THE DIFFERENCE.
Shalom,
AuntieJ
that was the title of a fabulous u2 cd, but i borrow it here to ask you all, old friends, a question.. first, apologies for being absent for so long.
"real life" projects have cut into my online time, been so busy i haven't had time to turn around twice.
but you are in my thoughts, daily.. my question for pondering...how do you know what to keep and what to throw away?.
YIKES! I need help here. I can tell others what to throw away, but....I have 3 adult children, NO grandkids, and still have some of their books and toys put away. and a couple special outfits. These are going on 32 years now! They just remind ME that I am getting OLD...UGH. Plus I have started going to garage sales (I sell on eBay) and My own garage is filling up with TOO MUCH STUFF!
I have about 2 boxes of copies of JW stuff off the internet; from months of obsessiveness when my daughter was dating the JW. I definitely need to pitch that I guess.
so, thanks for getting me started. I think I'll keep my *kids* things for a couple more years. I did toss most of their papers, etc. but the few that I kept, I tried to give to them and they didn't want them~
AuntieJ
im having that feeling where if i couldve been able to do something in the past, life wouldve been better.
like i wouldve been able to be much better friends with this person and that person.
or if i did that sport i couldve become closer to those people.
Hi tsunami! I'm a mom who's raised 3 kids...one of them dated a JW, which is what brought me here.
B4 you think I'm older than sh*t...wait a minute. I know some of what you are feeling and it is all really normal. Yes, the JW stuff adds to it, but believe me, each one of my kids went through depression in mid teens to probably 20. My girls still deal w. it off and on. They are beautiful 'kids' and have found their own way. But I was there for them, maybe not to hand out the $$, but to offer support when they needed it.
I just want to say, hang tough, you are doing OK. DOn't let it all get you down. You have come a long way...any chance of just getting out after this summer and working full time, going to college part time? BE careful with your finances, don't use a credit card if you can avoid that. It can kill ya.
You can write me if you feel like it, I'm on your side. [email protected]
Take care of your fine self!
AuntieJ
i think that the way jw treats women is absolutely terrible!!!!!
makes me want to confront them and give the powers that be a taste of the same medicine they dish out.
how can the be so cold and insensitive to treat another human being this way for any reason and try to justify with the words of the bible.
You sound like a very caring friend. So, has your lady friend told you a specific problem she encountered as a JW...is she being shunned by family or friends now? They are a sick, strange lot who think they are doing right by ignoring the main Rule of Jesus: Do unto Others as you would have them do unto you. This rule doesn't apply to JW's, according to the way they show their love.
Peace,
AuntieJ
this is my story... please give me some advice.
i am 25 years old.
i'm a single mother of a beautiful 8 year old daughter.
Good Grief Girl. Get away while you can. Sure he might be a nice guy...but does he mean more to you than your daughter? Have you heard all the damage that this cult can do to people like yourself, but more importantly, your daughter? Are you ready to tell her NO MORE Birthdays...NO MORE Christmas....You CANNOT Take Blood if You are laying dying from an accident.....???
You sound desperate and young. Grow up for your daughter's sake, please!
(Have you taken your daughter to a church ever in her young life? She deserves to learn about the REAL God, not the WTBS God)
I truly hope you will listen to these people who have lived through more than you can imagine....with "Nice" JWs like your friend.
i remember being at a bookstudy one tuesday night.
i had just recently been reinstated, and i was trying hard to believe the stuff the wbts was teaching, as i went back to be reunited with my family.
(this did not mean i had all the doctrinal beliefs straightened out so that i was an "automatic believer" just because of being reinstated.).
CYP: CHECKMATE!
i am reading crisis of conscience and am wondering what goes through people's minds when they read it, i am on about page 115. i find it slow reading because of the way it is written.
even though i have been out of the org for going on 20 years, i am a little shocked at some of the stuff i'm reading and i feel like it shouldn't shock me.
i remember when i was a jw, how the governing body was put on a pedestal; everyone assumes they spend all their time studying and praying over matters from a scriptural standpoint.
Well, after reading all these posts I think I am going to take a chance and mail C.of C. to my JW relative.
If you were a JW and received one in your hands, unexpectedly...what do you think you would do????
i have recently met someone that has been out of jw for quite some time.
i really care for this person and i would like to know more about jw so i can understand what she went thru to remove herself, what feelings you think she may have from her involvement in jw and what she may go thru in the future that we are planing together.
please help, any info is appreciated!!.
You are in a good place to learn. Is she 110% OUT and has no desire to return? There is a lot of guilt
laid on former JWs, sometimes they are drawn back.
Shalom, AuntieJ
Don't look like you....WHATEVER! Both have a major resemblance to their mama!
Oh, so sweet; I love to put faces on the names I see here--and I love the
kids' names. What cuties, all of you
