@Tameria - Oh good grief. How many times has that ever been an issue.
People that go on and on about not writing letters are usually those without what it takes to write one. Do or don't, it's up to you, but the anti-disassociation rhetoric is weak and easily shredded.
The whole "you're playing their game" argument is usually put out by people that are playing all kinds of JW games to keep toxic family while those that disassociate can just move on without having to pretend anything.
If fading is your thing, do it. If disassociating is your thing, do it. It's a personal choice based on many factors. There is no right or wrong no matter how much certain people, for whatever reason, demonize disassociating. It's just different. The Borg holds power over all of us to some extent or we wouldn't be here.