by datingAjwgirl 38 Replies latest members private
Im on the phone with her right now, I gave her some articles on transplants = canabalism. Instead of answering wether or not they printed it and believe it. Or if she believes it she wants to talk about blood and look up scriptures.
Its not a hotness thing, I wish it was. I now feel obligated!
Obligated to what?
Go to the pound, pick out a kitten that is going to be put to sleep because nobody will claim it, and get your good deed.
Why don't you try to bring about world peace while you are at it. I am not trying to be cold here, but changing people is pretty much the path to ruin and unhappiness.
And she isn't even hot!!!???
This is only the tip of the iceburg, the start. Unless you can change her view of the watchtower org you are in for some very rough times and serious difficulties. and don' t forget, when it comes to obligation on her part, she will always put the WT ahead of you. That's just the way it WILL be.
ok she is hot, but Im thinking if I break up it with her over this then it gives her bible study teacher that much more amunition. I know they will prey on her like a pack of wolves when she is emotionally distraught.
Oh yeah we have been dating for about year (long distance so we only actually see eachother once a month or so, but phone daily pluse IM and email),
I see. Not baptized. Yeah, she gave you a year, you deserve to give her one.
What about her family? Do they know what is going on? Be careful. DOn't just call up her mom and say, "Your daughter is joining a cult!!!"
Maybe say, "So what do you think about it?" or "are you aware of some of their teachings?"
Get Releasing the Bonds ASAP! Right now. Why are you still reading this?
GOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!
Don't come back until you have ordered this book. I am done talking to you until you do.
I ordered it from freeminds.
her familly situation is difficult. Her mom started studying with them before she died of cancer, and yes she did have a transfusion, but was not babtized and not disfellowshiped. Her grandmother would not let her or siblings study with them (she was 13 at the time). During college or shortly there after she began studying with them again. Now she is convinced its the TRUTH and she cant wait to see her mom again, who by the way made a dying request to keep studying and get babtized. Her siblings dont study but dont understand why we fight about it or why I would try to tear down her beliefs.
I now feel obligated!
Boy....if you think you're feeling pulled apart with feelings of obligation to get this girl.....just wait until you're baptised and fully immersed in the Orwellian World of the WT where you'll be "obligated" to death. And all because she wants to fulfill a dying mothers request that she not live her own life, but instead trade it in for one her dead mother would have for her.
You'd better be careful about letting this dead woman reach out from the grave and swat your life too.
Welcome to the world of frustration. Her family can't understand why you are trying to get her out of cult?!! Maybe they need some information as well. Or maybe you should move on. No offense intended, I'm married to someone who became a jw. It has hurt our entire family. Would you choose that for your family? children? I understand how hard it would be to walk away, even harder when you have made commitment and children are involved. carla
Hi, I am new to the forum but spent the last 35 years as a JW, 20 of them as an elder's wife. I've seen alot. Unless you get professional advice from people who help others escape from cults it is unlikely you will succeed in rescuing your girlfriend. Stand your ground. Be firm. Tell her you love her and that you are sorry she is choosing this organization over a happy life with you. Believe me, one day when she is out in service on a beautiful Saturday sitting in the back seat of a stuffy car with some gossipping idiots, or sitting in a KH hearing another boring talk about Jebediahthuselah, or when her husband is off counseling congregation sisters in a private room while her own marriage disappears, she will think wistfully about you my dear boy and wonder what life might have been like with you.
Brother, you've got your hands full, and you haven't even gotten to first base!
But seriously... the person known as "Check_Your _Premises" offered some good advice:
Get her to think about OTHER cults.
Check out the movie that "C_Y_P" mentions in the thread he linked to, and try to rent a copy of "Ticket To Heaven" from your local video rental.
Keep telling her it's not about the Witnesses, and you're glad the witnesses aren't like that.
You may get ther to think.
You may lose her in the process.
But rejoice! For there are HOTTER chix than her to be had, and they don't have all those Bibles and Watchtower books in their luggage!
"Tis wise advice not to become unevenly yoked with one who is not your intellectual/philosophical equal. Life is too short.
