Thanks again for your concern.
Please realise that my x might be an irrational mean bitch to me... but she is a pretty good mum to the girls.
Spend an afternoon in their company, you'd be charmed.
She's over-protective, still carries cult-baggage, and is not setting the best example in some areas. Her behaviour towards me might distress the kids at times and make the situation worse than it could be... but up until now I've not felt the environment they grow up in is anymore or less harmful than many divorced families. My opinion on that might change in coming months.
I would far rather force her compliance with a threat I would carry out that she would find unbearable (and be able to do nothing about) than go to court - at this stage.
In court I have no doubt I could make her look like ambulatory excrement if I wanted to. Having an ex-wife that writes letters that look like they've come from a mental patient is a great boon in this situation...
At any point the kids could come and live with me if it were legally possible for them to do so... and when I am back in the UK (which I will be anyway) that will be so much easier (and prohibitively expensive international legal action will become far far cheaper and possible if it is required - AND they're at an age when they could probably sway the judge themselves).
But the biggest lesson my ex has ever given me is not to give into hate. It governs the poor bitch's life. She cannot let go of the fact I left her. I refuse to give into hating her; I despise her for using the kids to get at me. But I have seen what hate has done to her life. It is not pretty; I'm not immune to it, especially when she acts like this. But I don't dwell on it and let it rot me like she has let it rot her.
Love to all
Gyles
