If Your Mate Used Drugs, What Would You Do?

Chloe

Along the lines of run dont walk's post, I'd like to get your thoughts about your spouse being addicted to drugs, specifically meth.

Thanks.

freedom96

I had an employee get back on meth after they had quit. It is bad news, to say the least. His life started crumbling around him.

I personally would insist that my mate got help, if they were taking it. Thankfully my wife has no desire whatsoever to try any drug.

minimus

That's awful! He ABSOLUTELY needs professional help.

RichieRich

If it was something innocent like recreational marijuana, I would not mind.

Meth, however, is a horrible drug, one that leads many to their death. Out of love for my mate, I would try to help, realizing the dangers. Of course I would seek help for them. I do not see a way for someone to coexist with that. I would leave them.

love2Bworldly

It's one of many reasons I divorced 2 spouses. They both did drugs secretly behind my back, knowing that I did not approve of that lifestyle. They became more controlling, mean, and abusive over time, so I divorced both of them. I could never figure out why they didn't choose someone that had things like drugs in common with them--but maybe it's because now one is homeless and the other one lives with his Mommy, and they are both in their 40's.

I have 3 beautiful children by these 2 idiots, and they are not allowed to have visitation because of drugs, alcohol, and violence. Of course now that I'm older and wiser, I realize that I have co-dependency issues--but I did not know when I married them that they were drug users.

love2Bworldly

Oh--to stay on topic. Specifically meth was what my second husband used and caused me a lot of heartache and embarrassment. He lied to my family and our neighbors to get money for drugs, but I found out way later. My own dad did not tell me he went to my dad's house once in a while to ask for money--makes me mad! I also had to hide my purse and my checkbook from him, because he stole from me, and of course we had money problems--filed bankruptcy, got evicted from our house, etc.

avishai

Yeah, ummm, well, meth is bad news. If they were addicted, I'd say get your ass to rehab and outta my house. Never trust a junkie, at least not while they're practicing. Especially 'cuz I have kids. Then we'd see. Maybe.

Anything else would be enabling them and unloving to them. Seriously.

hopelesslystained

my 1st husband (he was jw) used successfully behind my naive little 20yr old jw back. after a few yrs his use was in the open after being df'd for adultery. once i came to the realization he would not accept help and LIKED the way he was, and was using my jw conscience to control me, i left. just my experience. each individual situation is a little different. if i were to find myself in that same situation, i would leave sooner. it would have avoided the permanent and not so permanent damage he did to our children. but the jws no longer have control over my decisions.

Chloe

I didn't know a thing about this stuff but I've gotten quite an education in the last 6 months. He claims he hasn't used since December but his mental attitude isn't getting any better. He went to Narcotics Anonymous a few times but that's it.

This has to be the most vile, dangerous drug there is. He is certainly not the person I married and I doubt if he'll ever be the same.

GetBusyLiving

Depends. I occasionally smoke dope.. if it were just a recreational drug once in a while - big deal. On the other hand Meth is scary stuff as are the other biggies : crack, heroin, and fundie Christian religious sects. I'd probably be hitting the road.

GBL

If Your Mate Used Drugs, What Would You Do?

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