Having never been jw, and husband seemingly fully indoctrinated, we have tried to discuss this issue. He seems to have no concept of what 'undeserved kindness' means. I have tried to explain it many, many ways. He seemed to get it a little when I relayed the following- (forget for a moment any jw disgust with transplants etc...) Let's say your child needed a heart transplant, without, the child WILL die, lo and behold a heart becomes available, you are joyful, the operation goes well. The child is expected to fully recover and lead a productive life. Your joy is overflowing, then you remember, in order for your child to live, someone else's has died. Your joy is tempered by the loss of anothers. How could you ever 'repay' this family? You never could. No amount of money, nothing you could offer could replace this precious child. They gave you and your child a gift, the gift of life. An unselfish act for your benefit. In their grief, they thought of you and the life of your child. You simply cannot 'pay' back something like that. He seemed to understand for a fleeting moment, then all was lost as the indoctrination kicked in. What does anybody have to 'offer' God? If all is His and created by Him, what does any of us actually have to offer Him?Other than our faith. Undeserved kindness is what we get instead of what we deserve, that is what grace is. Thank heaven we don't 'get' what we deserve. Even those who love us can show grace, they often have to love us and show grace even when we don't deserve it. Or we have to find a way to show 'grace' to someone we love. Even if we don't know how, and no one seems to be able to tell us how. That is hard, trying to show grace when you have no idea how you can. Yet, everyone else tells you, you should. still trying to learn how to show grace myself, the jw's make it extremely hard, carla