You're right about being helped depending on being in the right clique.
It's a popularity contest.
We helped many people move but when it came time to help us...
Once when I moved, people at work came over. It was a good thing because no one from the KH showed up despite their agreeing to do so.
Then the elders had the nerve to counsel me about bad association.
Reminded me of the account of the good samaritan where the Jewish priest and Levite walked by and it was the despied Samaritan than helped the Jewish man.