I've come to realization that if the right parameters are met, most can be forgiven... especially with LOTS OF TIME.
I also accept (this was the hardest) that I'll probably never "forget". But hey I don't remember or harbor any animosity for my circumsicison...so there's hope! The Dubs were almost Nazi about me forgiving and FORGETTING ASAP! What do they know about being human?
No more fear! Actually now they're afraid of me.... kinda nice for a change.