The thing that got to me was that all of the rules that were closely followed in the local congs are bypassed at the House.
I did almost everything in bethel that I saw the local elders going crazy over at my local congo.
We would drink like crazy, go on the roof to watch 4th of July and New Years fireworks and drink like crazy.
Had our pick of NY & visiting pioneer skanks and drank like crazy.
When I finally left and was a local elder again, suddenly I became the loose liberal forgiving elder. The young people just loved to bring their problems to me. I would honestly try to help them without making mountains out of molehills. If they had gone to brother oldfart, he would have them hanging their stained knickers in the congregation for masturbation.
A group of our elders wanted to reprove a young ex-bethelite for sending a case of beer to his old roommates. I had to nix that idea and told them that I would handle it by speaking with him and some of the elders at bethel. I just pulled him aside and told him to try not being so obvious or they would make life hard for him. He thanked me and gave me some beer and we drank like crazy.
That's what was really trippy. You'd have these home overseers or their underlings questioning you about music that they had no clue about. One of my friends had an all-instrumental, jazzy album from the Beastie Boys (The In-Sounds From Way Out - yeah, believe it or not, the Beastie Boys played instruments), and because their name had the word 'beast' in it, they tried to reason with him on how unsound it was to possess an album where the artists are called 'beasts.' In another instance, another of my friends had some "Boss" jeans. He got pulled aside and counseled on why he would wear jeans that would have the word boss on the back pocket and the crotch area and how that sends the wrong message about God's servants. It was this type of micro-managed, self-righteous, judgemental shit like that that was such a turn-off.