Or could there be a little more to this story that we do not know??
There usually is.
A guy in a nearby city was DF'd about 10 years after he attended his last meeting. He had family still "in," including grown kids and an ex-wife; some of the kids were still going to meetings, as was the wife.
Out of the blue the elders called him on the phone at his place of business and informed him they wished to meet with him to discuss "serious charges" about his conduct. He was floored, and declined to meet with them. A former elder, he thought he knew the rules. He reminded them he'd been missing in action for a decade and made no pretense of being a JW.
They argued that his "family" knew him to be a JW, as did other dubs in the city and some were being "stumbled." Therefore his behavior (he had a long-time live-in woman friend) "required" them to hold a meeting. They met without him and he got a call informing him of their decision (DF, of course). It was read at a KH the following week.
His grown kids were really troubled by this and felt their elders had been "out to get" their dad, with whom they had forged a peaceful and productive adult relationship. Their mother announced shortly afterward that she and her JW love interest were going to tie the knot.
The "more to the story" part? It turned out the ex-wife, feeling it was vital to get an outright admission from the guy that he'd "broken the marriage vows," got on the phone with another sister on the extension and told him she was in love and assumed she was free to remarry because he was living with someone but, while she was certain they were lovers, she wanted him to just say it so her conscience would be clean when she remarried. The guy obliged her by saying, sure, we're sleeping together.
Then the two sisters went to the elders and insisted they take action because he was "known" by many as a JW, and had confessed infidelity. This meant he could be DF'd, and also that she was free to remarry. Of course, the rank and file is mostly mystified as to what brought this guy down; they don't have access to the rest of the story and most of them wouldn't believe this kind of crap goes on. But it does.
Edited to add: Cindy, you probably don't fully realize it yet, but you are incredibly lucky to have seen the true nature of this WT beast from the get-go. It saved you years of heartache, frustration and disappointment.