I used to feel guilty for having raised my own childeren this way.
Let me explain:
When I was a new elder, I was approached by the circuit overseer and a bunch of elders, and was firmly asked to notify my disfellowshipped father to have no further contact with him. I was heartbroken and confused. After all, he had been to my wedding in the KH a few years earlier, and I felt it was a personal decision. But being young and new, under pressure, and 'wanting to do what is right' I blindly followed their counsel.
I raised two children, and explained 'the reason' why they also could not talk to grandpa. And so, they in turn followed my 'example' Being disfellowshipped myself ( a term I don't like to use, because it's THEIR restriction and not mine) My children are now following my own example of not having any communicating with me.. And so I have lost them to this 'organization'
Do I feel guilty about this? Not anymore. I have to resolve in my mind, that I did what I thought was right (wrong as it was) The lure and attraction of the religion was strong and powerful. But in the end, I know, that they are aware that I was struggling with the organization. I was high up in the organization, and had many issues with doctrine. My children saw a glimpse of that as well, and hope they will open their eyes one of these days.
If you haven't seen the movie 'Saved!" yet, you should. There is an underlying message for people within christian faiths. And it applies to most organized religions, and the implact it has on them. It's rated PG-13 and I know most JW kids watch PG-13 movies.