Self love

by Cath 12 Replies latest watchtower beliefs

  • Cath

    Is there anyone out there who remembers being taught by the WT that love of the self was sinful? If so will you please point me to a piece of literature which contains that teaching, preferably a scan if possible. I have a vague memory of hearing something along those lines as a child and don't know if it was part of JW teaching or just something my family taught us. Any info would be most welcome as I don't have access to older material. Thanks.


  • JustTickledPink

    "For suggestions on how to overcome masturbation, see the book Questions Young People Ask?Answers That Work, pages 198-211, published by Jehovah's Witnesses."

    THat is on the bottom of the link to the article about phone sex...

  • Peppermint

    Well according to George Benson (JW) ?learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all?

  • Cath

    Oh dear, I didn't mean self-love as in masturbation but thanks anyway JTP. That vague memory I have of being taught that we shouldn't love ourselves goes back about 30 - 40 years Peppermint, I think well before George Benson became JW so it could well be a teaching that changed as with so many others since I was a child.

  • peggy

    Self sacrifice, self sacrifice, self sacrifice!

    My own interpretation that I brought away from that was to not love SELF, all others ahead of self.

    On the other hand, Love your neighbor as you do yourSELF.Luke 10:27 He who loves his wife loves himself. Eph. 5:28 NWT

    I can no longer sacrifice SELF.

  • myvalk
  • Carmel

    You can't truely love your neighbor (anyone) until you love yourself. If you do not love your own identity in a healthy way, your attachment to others will not be selfless, ie it will be manipulative and limited affection. Usually your attraction to another will be to fill a need you have rather than to give yourself to another in an act of true love.

    from fromm


  • Narkissos

    Awake! 4/8, Young People Ask (sorry no paper edition available).

    A Word of Caution

    While the need for self-love is implied in such Bible texts as Matthew 19:19 and Ephesians 5:28, 29, the Scriptures far more frequently warn against thinking too much of oneself! Why is this?

    Apparently because most of us, in our efforts to gain self-confidence, overshoot the mark. Many become egotistical. Others grossly exaggerate their skills and abilities or are prone to put others down. These are the boasters and braggarts. However, their self-esteem outstrips their true worth.

    Even Christians can fall into this trap. Rivalry between Jews and Gentiles (non-Jews) afflicted the congregation in first-century Rome. The apostle Paul thus gave straightforward counsel. He reminded the Gentiles of their sordid past. Only by means of God?s "kindness" had they been "grafted" into a position of God?s favor. (Romans 11:17-36; 1:26-32) Self-righteous Jews, too, had to confront their imperfections. "For all have sinned and fall short of the glory of God."?Romans 3:23.

    Did Paul, however, strip them of self-esteem; reduce them to cowering beggars? Not at all. "For through the undeserved kindness given to me," Paul continued, "I tell everyone . . . not to think more of himself than it is necessary to think." (Romans 12:3) It was "necessary" to have a measure of self-respect. But they had to avoid going overboard.?See Romans 11:20.

    A Christian therefore avoids extremes. As Dr. Allan Fromme observes: "A person who has an adequate conception of himself is not sad, but he does not have to be deliriously happy. . . . He is not pessimistic, but his optimism is not unbridled. He is neither foolhardy nor free of specific fears . . . He realizes that he is not the outstanding success of all time, nor is he a perennial failure."

    So be modest. "God opposes the haughty ones, but he gives undeserved kindness to the humble ones." (James 4:6) Acknowledge your assets, but don?t ignore your faults. Rather, work on them.

    You?ll still doubt yourself from time to time. But you need not ever doubt your self-worth or that God cares for you. For "if anyone loves God, this one is known by him."?1 Corinthians 8:3.

  • phil78

    And just to confuse things, we must "love our neighbour as ourselves."

    Probably a different love. Isn't there a few types of love in the bible? A.gape', Phi-lia, and i thought there was 1 more.


  • Narkissos
    And just to confuse things, we must "love our neighbour as ourselves."

    Probably a different love. Isn't there a few types of love in the bible? A.gape', Phi-lia, and i thought there was 1 more.

    IMO the very phrase "love our neighbour as ourselves" (one verb for both + explicit equation) rules out "a different love". And the WT's (and others') "typology of love according to the Greek lexicon" is pseudo-philological hogwash. The semantic ranges of different words in the same language do overlap (synonymy).

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