And soon, his funeral.....

by Fe2O3Girl 34 Replies latest jw friends

  • orangefatcat
    orangefatcat

    "Fe", My heart goes out to you and your family. Nothing is more tragic in life, the lose of a baby. I lost my first baby too, so I now how terribly painful this is for you. I hope you will remeber to take care of yourself too. And I have this information that may be of assistance to you and your family during this most difficult time.

    My deepest love

    Terry

    I pray for your comfort. Scriptures about the resurrection are excellent.

    " Some suggestions for an Infant Funeral Service."

    ~ A cradle or bassinet for infant to rest in during services

    ~ Display of flowers that represent the child's birth/death month

    ~ Symbolic remembrance items for guests such as packets of 'Forget-Me-Not' flower seeds to plant in honor of the grieving family's baby

    ~ Videography of services

    ~ Photography of family with their infant

    ~ Music that may be symbolic to their child such as songs about angels

    ~ Readings of poems and letters written for one's child by the family

    ~ Release of butterflies; doves or balloons in honor of a family's baby to symbolize their child's free spirit and love.

    ~ Light memorial candles to symbolize and express the eternal love between parent and child that will never burn out. Possibly use aromatherapy candles such as lavender scents to create a soothing atmosphere.

    ~ Encourage families to hold their baby and spend quiet time with their child before and after the funeral.

    With love and devotion to you.

    End..
  • Fe2O3Girl
    Fe2O3Girl

    Dear dear friends,

    Thanks again for your kindness and thoughtfulness. It is comforting to read your messages and pm's and know that although we have never met, you have all taken the time to think of me.

    Special hugs to other parents who have lost their babies: (((Balsam))) who I have watched find and shake out her XJW wings and fly to a happier life with her sweetie, from way back on the XJW Support board; (((Happyout))); (((Fleur))); and (((Terry))). I am sorry if I missed anyone.

    It is amazing how many people have suffered the loss of a child. When the child is newborn or still in the womb, our loss disappears to the outside world within days or weeks. Although my baby is gone, I will always be his mother, Grant will always be his father.

    This week has been more difficult than the last few, a couple of things have triggered tears. However, I do still know that my life is richly blessed; I have a very good life and I am deeply loved. I can't and don't feel sorry for myself because even though there are some clouds in the sky at the moment, and I so wish I still had a healthy baby growing in me, I still wouldn't wish to be anyone but me, with my family.

    So don't feel too sorry for me.

    ((((Hugs)))) to all.

    Rachel xx

    I found a poem by Christina Rossetti, Remember: Remember me when I am gone away, Gone far away into the silent land: When you can no more hold me by the hand, Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay. Remember me when no more day by day You tell me of our future that you planned: Only remember me; you understand It will be late to counsel then or pray. Yet if you should forget me for a while And afterwards remember, do not grieve: For if the darkness and corruption leave A vestige of the thoughts that once I had, Better by far you should forget and smile Than that you should remember and be sad. Christina Rossetti 1830-1894

  • Angharad
    Angharad

    (((((((((((F2O3Girl))))))))))

    Its a very touching poem

  • orangefatcat
    orangefatcat

    FE ,I found this poem and it sounded so beautiful. I would like to share it with you.

    Love Orangefatcat....

    Guess What Mommy & Daddy?

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    Heaven is great.
    Just like you said,
    There's not much longer to wait.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    I have a guardian angel who comes at night.
    I told him I wanted to go,
    But the times not right.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    My angel came this morning.
    While you were still in bed,
    He came with a warning.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    When I left with June.
    So you could rest some more,
    I knew my time was soon.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    When you were finally out of sight,
    I told my angel,
    The time is just right.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    When you still didn't know I was gone,
    My angel put his hand in mine,
    And I was no longer stiff or sick,I felt so happy & fine.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    When the hospital called,I saw you crying from above.
    I saw daddy & how scared he was,
    And I knew how much I was loved.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    On the way to the hospital I heard you pray,
    Don't let them bring me back,
    I know you don't want God to take me away.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    I saw you walk into the ER,and ask is he gone.
    I saw the look on your face when the nurse said yes!
    It looked like you'd never go on.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    I seen you holding me tight.
    I kissed you good-bye with my love,
    And tried to tell you I was alright.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    There's no more pain,
    You can go on with your life,
    And not feel so drained.

    Guess what mommy & daddy,
    I'll watch you all your days through.
    And be like your guardian angel,
    Just because, I LOVE YOU!!

    http://www.thelaboroflove.com/prose/poems/guess.html

  • Robdar
    Robdar

    (((((Rachel)))))

    What sad news. My heart aches for you.

    Do what you feel is appropriate for the funeral. Not good advice, I know.

    Robyn

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