where to now

by betrayedbyall 37 Replies latest jw friends

  • Sunspot

    Welcome to the board!

    I left five years ago after being in for 30 years. Primarily I left because I was disgusted at the lack of love in the congo, but then I was even more disgusted when I discovered all the deceit and lies that I had lived under all that time

    The WTS will make a huge deal it of something , like in your case, part of a costume---yet THEY are knowingly guilty of bloodguilt, hiding pedophilia, scamming and backing up deliberate lies about the Org---promoting it as the only one that God approves!

    You have nothing to prove to them---they are purposely misleading 6 million people! Let's put the blame where it belongs, on THEIR lying shoulders. Any tiny infraction that WE could possibly make pales by comparison.



  • Mulan

    Where do you live............approximately?

  • candidlynuts

    welcome and i'm so sorry that you've had such a trying experience.

    many stories like yours, you offend the wrong person in the hall and the elders nit pick you to death finding reasons to find fault. its not loving and it really shows that the jehovah's witnesses dont have Gods blessing anymore. i feel like they did at one time but they've apostisized themselves for joining the UN . and i never (4th generation jw) EVER thought they were right in being exclusivley saved by God. no matter how good of a person you are if you dont attend a kingdom hall your going to die? that just didnt seem like something that would come from the Jesus Christ i had read about in scripture.

    stick around, theres a great diversity of beliefs here all united by our experiences with the wtbs.

  • Been there
    Been there

    Betrayed, Welcome to the board and thanks for filling us in on your story. You may find this place addicting.

    I'm sorry they treated you that way. Please hang around here and heal a little before you go anywhere. The answers will start to come to you and you will find many here that know your pain. One of the first steps to healing is finding out you are not alone in your journey. It is kind of a halfway house. A place to test your wings abit when going out into the real world. A good place to come running back to if it gets overwhelming. There are so many kind and caring people here. There are a few stinkers too but thats life.

  • Swan

    Oh you poor man!

    They never cease to amaze me with the stuff they come up with to throw out those they have a mind to. And that is what happened here. They had no intention of ever letting you off the hook. You unwittingly set in motion a chain of events by firing JW employees, and that is obviously why they were after you.

    There is no rule or Watchtower law that forbids you from playing the music of dead entertainers. They made up this silly rule on the spot like a bunch of Pharisees.

    As for the plastic gun incident, they were obviously looking for something, anything, with which to get you. They couldn't find Halloween decorations, so he went grasping at straws by focusing on this western costume.

    As for the word apostate, it is just a word. It has a much more benign definition in the dictionary than the JWs give it. It says "one who renounces a religious faith." In that respect, many JWs who had a former faith, such as Catholic, Protestant, etc. are apostates. It is just a word, but they have turned it into a hurtful label. Don't give them that power.

    I won't tell you it will be easy for you, but it will get easier as time goes on. As Mulan said, "Give yourself time to heal." This is a good place to heal.

    My heart goes out to you. Welcome.



    Welcome to the board.Be gratefull your away from a sickness they try to pass off as a religion.This is your chance to make a new life for yourself.Life outside the the WBTS is good.Very,very good.Take one step at a time,start to make plans to enjoy your new life, and hang out with us when ever you want ...OUTLAW

  • minimus

    Thanks for sharing this. It is NOT GOD'S organization. I'm glad you're out. PLEASE make "worldly" friends quickly. Get an outlet and read everything you can to see that you were bamboozled and be grateful that you were finally able to find out before you lost more time and money.

  • BrendaCloutier

    Welcome to the board {{{ Betrayed }}}

    I am so sorry for all of your losses, and your family's losses. At least you have a friend in your business partner. I hope that can be resurrected.

    Take a deep breath. It's not the end of the world, even though it might feel like it. Get through today, and deal with tomorrow when it gets here.

    And stick around! You're in good company!



  • betrayedbyall

    Thank you, all of you for your words of encouragement, I have received more encouragement this evening from you guys than I have recieved from my former "Brothers & Sisters" in the past year, I am very very grateful to you all.

    I have a difficult path to travel, I know this, having been raised a JW and having a personality which believes in throwing oneself into something 100% I find my life EMPTY at the moment. My business partner returned to his home in another country due to family ill health, now its me and my mother, a great woman who has stood by her son in everything. Don't get me wrong, its not been easy with her, she feels her son is now doomed to die at armaggedon and that I will never see my father in the new system, I know she is confused but also very hurt.

    I have assured her that our creator is not how he is painted by the JW's, come on, why would he destroy everyone else but not JW's, Over the past year I have met many many genuine people who are not JW, its those ones who have really cared for me, will god destroy them ? What about all those currently helping in the Sunami crisis who are not JW, what will he say to them, hmmmmmmmmm, yes you saved many, you gave your heart and soul but sorry U R not JW so bang bang, I think not, this much I still believe with all my heart, GOD is real and he loves those who care to love and support all other, JW or not. Mulan, in answer to your question I live in an area with relatively few JW's, the land of flying haggis and bagpipes, even if they did come from babylon, I still like them :-)

    Thanks again my friends, your help is much appreciated.

  • avishai
    They never cease to amaze me with the stuff they come up with to throw out those they have a mind to. And that is what happened here. They had no intention of ever letting you off the hook


    Are you aware that the wts belonged to the UN for ten years? You might want to show this to your mom and bro. Even anonymously. I find it a real shock to long time dubs.


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