teejay I'll speak for myself here, XW can make her own reply:
A person's own emotions and past experience often determine their level of tolerance, as xenawarrior's and bikerchic's own posts in this thread clearly demonstrate.
My past experiences have taught me a lot, thank you. I've learned as I've said before to look at what a person is doing not what they say they are doing. In other words if you mess up in my book you have a lot of proving to do, it doesn't come automatic just because you've said you've changed. I know from experience that to truly change you have to put into motion the change, then the feelings will follow and it takes a long time for a person to make the change inwardly as well as to overcome the loss of respect from others.
You have no idea how big my level of tolerance is and how I will go the extra mile if a person shows an earnest effort in changing. Just because I'm not campaigning for you to be JWD poster boy of the year doesn't mean I'm not tolerating you being here.
You pose your question as if people are that simple in their thinking for or against, my way or the highway, black and white. There are many shades of grey and they do come from people's past experiences. You speak of live and let live, I say live and learn.
"I hear and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand."
The bad news is, when it comes to where we are at in life, it's important to realize we create our circumstances by our past choices. We have both the ability and the responsibility to make better choices if we want our circumstances to improve.
A wise man once said... "If you keep doing what you've always done --- you'll keep getting what you've got."