DY's Letter of Disassociation... Just Dreaming For Now.

by Doubtfully Yours 13 Replies latest jw friends

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  Doubtfully Yours

  Dear Soon-To-Be Ex-friends:

  I hereby wholeheartedly and by my own free will request to have all records which indicate my current association with the Jehovah's Witnesses and it's legal entity, the Watchtower Bible and Tract Society, deleted at this time.

  The extremelly long time I endured while in your company has been wonderful at times and not so much at others, just like any experience in this great life.

  I've looked forward to this time for so long, in which I won't feel forced to attend all those repetitive and boring weekly meetings, add to that the exhausting and expensive assemblies, the Memorial, all the time-wasting preaching activities, plus the 'expected' socializing among members. It's all so enslaving to me!

  My sincere thanks to your religious organization for instilling certain moral values and discipline in me. However, at this time, after much soul searching and facts finding I find internal conflict in my continuing to subscribe to the JW beliefs and practices.

  I desire no further contact with Jehovahs Witnesses regarding my decision. I wish you all a wonderful life!

  Cordially yours,

  DY (Of course I'd write and sign my full legal name)
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  Doubtfully Yours

  What's up?!!!

  What did you all think of my soon-to-be delivered disassociation letter? Too sweet? To the point? Too polite?

  DY
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  Triple A

  DY, I am an outside, so I do not think that I should give you any advise on this issue. But I would like you to know that you have my support. Also did you see minimus thread about friends http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/6/80976/1.ashx. Triple A.
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  seattleniceguy

  Hey there, DY,

  Very interesting letter. It's rather inscrutible. I think the reader will be left wondering what you think on "the big questions." Like, so do you think this is God's organization but that it's just a drag? Or are you leaving because you think it's bunk? Etc, etc. But maybe you want to leave them wondering. I think I would be a bit confused if I received this letter.

  Just my two cents. Good luck!

  SNG
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  unbeliever

  That is a good letter. Me personally I would not have thanked them for anything. It's not long and IMO that is a very good thing. I've read DA letters that ranged from 5-30 pages. It's highly unlikely those kind of letters get read. Your DA letter would be read.
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  coffee_black

  Hi DY,

  I like the approach. My DA letter was 9 typewritten pages plus a packet of photocopies. I doubt anyone (with a couple of exceptions) read it, but it really felt good to write it and deliver it. I sent copies of it to pretty much everyone I knew as a dub...mailed them out before I gave the letter to the local elders.

  Yours is short and sweet and to the point. You sound happy about your decision, and that really comes across. That will surprise them, because you're supposed to be miserable, you know. Good job!

  Coffee
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  Doubtfully Yours

  Do you all think I should send a copy to every congregation I've belonged to, and to all of soon-to-be ex-friends, and to my firm JW relatives?

  DY
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  unbeliever

  I desire no further contact with Jehovahs Witnesses regarding my decision. I wish you all a wonderful life!

  If you really mean the above statement where your family and stbx friends are concerned.

  Also you don't have to DA yourself. That is something the legal department came up with. I would refuse to DA myself for that reason alone.
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  coffee_black

  DY,

  I wanted to let everyone know why I was leaving before the elders had a chance to spin it their way. I wanted it to come from me, along with the reasons I chose to do it. Once they make the announcement, you don't have a chance to set the record straight. I doubt that most of the recipients of my letter read it, but I was contacted by a couple of people who said that I made them think. If I had it to do over, I would have made it much shorter. It felt cleansing to me at the time, though. In the end, I''m really not in contact with all but a couple of the people I sent the letter to.

  Coffee
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  Winston Smith :>D

  DY,

  First off, I'm writing this quickly at work, so I hope the content of this post doesn't come off as callused in anyway. It is does, I apologize.

  Your letter employs the KISS method. Short, sweet and to the point. Efffective & good.

  You?ll likely find that most read it, but it won?t really teach them anything about the WTS.

  I've looked forward to this time for so long, in which I won't feel forced to attend all those repetitive and boring weekly meetings, add to that the exhausting and expensive assemblies, the Memorial, all the time-wasting preaching activities, plus the 'expected' socializing among members.

  The above paragraph seems to give indication that your only reason for leaving is that you are spiritually lazy, and the JW?s will likely think that you just got tired of walking the straight and narrow path.

  If your cool with them not really having to analyze WTS screw-ups stumbling you, and with your JW associates thinking that you just ?gave-up?, then the letter does it?s job. Send it out before you?re announced so that everyone knows that you decided to leave and you were not found guilty of anything.

  For me, I decided to write out a long drawn out letter.

  http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/9/62860/1.ashx

  I mailed it out to 20 people before I handed it to the elders, but its likely most didn?t read it. For me, it felt great to write it out and mail it to my friends. Plus if any of those that got my letter finally realize that the WTS is a cult while lying on their deathbed 20 years from now, my hands will be clear because I tried to tell them. Hopefully someone will be helped out from those letters.

  RE: the matter of not playing by the WTS?s rules, I say this: not DA?ing yourself from the WTS and letting the elders give you a one way ticket out of the cult differs little than not kissing a dictators ring to get a personal escort out of a dictatorship.

  It?s an easy ticket to freedom, so lay the pride aside and write a DA letter if ?not playing by WTS rules? is the only thing holding you back.

  Now if someone has family in and there are additional repercussions, that is another story.

  Best,

  Paul