I feel ya Flower. I have 5 sisters (4 in da troof and 1 is half and half). But I would only label two of them BDB, the others just follow the rules of the BORG.
One BDB goes beyond what's written. She didn't speak to my children (her niece and nephew) at a funeral and when I went to shake her son's hand (my nephew) he wasn't having it.
The other BDB was the rebel rouser when we were growing up, she broke all the rules, including Caesars laws, and then, when she's at 'rock bottom' in her life, in her 30's, she becomes a Jdub. At this time I was leaving the Cult. Now she judges me as a threat to her spirituality and has the nerve to be leery of me. At this point in my life, I can't even come close to the things she did when she was a teenager and she now has the nerve to look down on me.
Wow -Talk about BDB's. But I can't really blame them b/c they are a product of a brain dead women - the organization, her mother, her sisters, her aunts, her cousins, and her friends.
I once heard (maybe in here) that friends are god's way of apologizing to you for some of your family members.
I'm glad you were able to find a sitter.
Peace - Larry :)