Would it be advisable for a true Christian to attend a funeral or a wedding in a church?
Our taking part in any form of false religion is displeasing to Jehovah and must be avoided. (2 Corinthians 6:14-17; Revelation 18:4) A church funeral is a religious service that likely involves a sermon advocating such unscriptural ideas as the immortality of the soul and a heavenly reward for all good people. It may also include such practices as making the sign of the cross and joining in prayer with the priest or minister. Prayers and other religious exercises contrary to Bible teaching may also be a part of a religious wedding ceremony held in a church or elsewhere. Being in a group where everyone else is engaging in a false religious act, a Christian may find it difficult to resist the pressure to join in. How unwise to expose oneself to such pressure!
What if a Christian feels obligated to attend a funeral or a wedding held in a church? An unbelieving husband, for example, may urge his Christian wife to be with him on such an occasion. Could she join him as a quiet observer? Out of regard for her husband?s wishes, the wife may decide to go with him, being determined not to share in any religious ceremonies. On the other hand, she may decide not to go, reasoning that the emotional pressure of the circumstances could prove to be too much for her, perhaps causing her to compromise godly principles. The decision would be hers to make. She definitely would want to be settled in her heart, having a clean conscience.?1 Timothy 1:19.
WHAT kind of crap is that? First they say, it MUST be avoided and then they turn around and say that a wife must obey her husband, even before God. So they are saying that the laws of the bible do not apply to women. Her first responsibility is to make sure she does not piss her husband off. AHHHHHHHH...I hate this kind of crap they write.
Anyways, I agree with many of the posters here. Go. For you and for her. If you believe at all in an afterlife, or that your Grandmother is somewhere watching, she will see and will now know the real truth. I would think, if I was her, that I would want to look down and see the one person in my life that showed devotion and love to me even when it was blocked at every turn. I think she would not want to you to back down now. I think it was a great idea to take a support group with you. If I was closer, I would hold your hand and go with you.
Lots of hugs sent your way, Jez