Just a few weeks ago I was trying to console Bryan, whose JW daughter had informed him -- he was not welcome at her wedding. I told him this has happened twice to me already...http://www.jehovahs-witness.com/7/79259/1287354/post.ashx#1287354 (sorry the link doesn't seem to work, you may have to copy n' paste it)
Well, I just found out...all my kids are now married. The youngest daughter just got married -- a week ago...
And I just found out...
Then to make it worse (for our children) my X-wife...who is truly the finest Jehovah's Witness she has ever met...except for her mother, of course...did not go to the wedding ! This makes the 3rd wedding of our children where NO PARENTS attended ! With me, I of course was not welcome, but, if I had been invited...I would have been there for them, on what is supposed to be their happiest day.
Their mother CHOSE NOT TO ATTEND. Why ? Either the spouses were not Witnesses or not good Witnesses !
So...I tried my best to 'act' as tho' I was not hurt in any way. I shook hands with my new son-in-law, who I met for the first time, heartily and truthfully wished them the best for their future lives together. They did look happy.
My X had her quick, fleeting joy of watching my shocked face when told the news, but, knowing her so well, I could see 'something' was not quite right...Mama was not truly 'happy' with something...later I found out about her not going. I don't know what the story is, except I know he was/is somehow associated with JW's.
Although I did a fine job of 'acting' not hurt...I was and am hurt very deeply. I am not DF or DA, not yet anyway. You see, the Elders acknowledged my X had no scriptural grounds for divorce or separation, there was no adultry...so neither one of us could re-marry -- without commiting adultry in the process. I lasted five years before starting to date, then about a year ago -- I did remarry anyway to a great lady who blessedly has never been a JW. Now, half my family who are JW's have been un-officially shunning the both of us. Not one of them came to our wedding, including my kids. I guess I am "MARKED" !
I was hoping to give away at least ONE of my daughters...*sigh*
Even tho' I am happily married, I am sometimes, so painfully lonely. I miss my kids so much. I have missed out on so many things in their lives in the last several very long years. And it looks like a very long road ahead, before ...well, who knows what will happen.
Some 'good news'...all of my kids now have gone against their mothers wishes and married "out-of-the-Truth," 2 of them no longer attend meetings and the last one...just turned 18, moved out and got married. Two of them still have almost nothing to do with me, they are still under intense pressure from their mother, the oldest and have have a good relationship again despite that.
All the dynamics are changing. All I can do is show -- no matter how much shit is thrown at me, I love my kids, I tell them anytime I can get a chance, I will Never Surrender to this hideous excuse for a Christian religion.
Like Bryan, I hope someday our daughters will see with eyes that are their own... * sigh *