Ok im confused.you were d,fed for Adultery right? If so,why is everyone condemning the D,fed action! If ive got it wrong i apologize.I actually agree with disfellowshipping if People are personally hurt bad in what ever way.But not for consensual relationships between 2 free parties.
Ive noticed this before,everyone is so quick to condemn the Jw,s they forget any innocent,hurt parties.
Her mom probably doesn't fall into the category of innocent, hurt parties. She's a family member who is carrying out the policy of shunning. Personally, I don't think disfellowshipping works. I cannot see how treating someone like dirt is supposed to produce a favorable response. Marital breakdown is stressful to both the husband and wife, regardless of who is at fault, and in normal families parents give moral support to their children, and help them to recover. My own JW mom has been a tremendous support to me, even though I DA'd last year. And she knows I'm not going back.
I don't have a problem with JWs shunning me. But they have to realize that I have an equal right to shun them. If they choose to publicly speak ill of me, they have no right to expect that I won't respond in kind. If they want to express their beliefs to me, they have to realize that I will disagree with them. And I won't be nice about it; I'll use the same sort of language they use in their own condemnations of other religions, governments, and people. They call other religions whores - then I call them whores.
They need to learn that they're just like everyone else - their words and actions carry consequenses just as ours do. They need to learn that we are no longer JWs, and therefore are not subject to their foolish rules.