I just needed to talk to some friends......
I agree with Lady Lee - send her flowers and let her know. The last time I saw my dad (an elder) I gave him a big hug, a kiss on the cheek, and told him I loved him - he died 4 days later from a massive heart attack. I never had a chance to say goodby - but I'm comforted in remembering my last moments with him.
My mom is still a JW and I have decided that I will not play their rules - I call her anyways, go visit her, etc. I think she feels torn in initiating contact with me too often, she loves me but also wants to be faithful to "Jehovah" - so I decided to take that responsibility and I do it instead. I know she appreciates it. Don't let their rules keep you from sharing your love with your mother.
My thoughts are with you...
Yeah, of course I remember you.
don't really want to be cheered up because I sometimes have a tendency to supress my strongest emotions but I just needed to feel some love as I sit here remembering the love of my mother
Good for you. I watched my dad with cancer. It sucks, there's not much that can cheer you up. I do care, though I'll pm my number in the am, if ya want to talk.
Yes, I remember you, too. I'm sorry to hear about the sadness and pain you are feeling now. I repeat pointblank's comments about your mother's love: she can't help but love you! Believe that, it's true. And you will never regret reaching out now, even if others make it difficult. She'll understand that your love for her is able to overcome those obstacles at this time, and it will touch her.
Your in my thoughts and prayers.
The family bond is one that might get stretched to breaking point, but I wonder if it's ever possible to break it.
Sometimes being taken to a point where you realise this while the loved ones are still around is perhaps a blessing.
Hard, though it might be to do, have you told her your feelings recently?
It took leaving the cult for me to realise how much I love my parents, and now I can freely tell them something that was hard to articulate before - I love them!
One of my best pals lost his dad to cancer this week (his mom had passed when he was a child), after a long battle where the three of them (he has a brother) drew very close. The funeral is today, in fact I have to leave within the hour.
What can you truly say? Other than "I'm here" and "love is eternal"?
You already know that my thought and prayers are with ya buddy.
Take good care of you and yours!
I'm sorry you had a bad night Tim, but you know you can call me anytime (after the initial pissy moment of waking I'm there for you ). Your mom is one of the best people I know Tim. I'm glad ya'll have been able to get past most of the JW stuff so you can spend some time with her now.
I tried calling but as usual either your cell battery is dead or you turned it off. I'll try later if I don't hear from you.
Thank you all for your suggestions and support. From time to time I need to know that I'm not the only one who's felt this way. That's why I found this place years ago. I wanted to talk to some that had gone through some of the same things. By your comments and expressions of love and concern, I learn that I do have the strength to do what should be done. I'm reminded that love can penetrate the walls that come up between us for various reasons. There are some things that I can do differently in the next few days and weeks and I intend to do that thanks to your encouragement. I do wish there was something I could do to fix everything. Sometimes I think that if I had played the game of life well I would have the time and money to fix the problems of everyone I love.......Death is an inevitable part of life but it's hard to watch her decline. Tim
(((( Tim )))) <~~ a hug for whenever you need it.
I do wish there was something I could do to fix everything. Sometimes I think that if I had played the game of life well I would have the time and money to fix the problems of everyone I love.......
There lies the path to madness...
What's past is past, and each day is born anew.
Look to the future, and just do the best you can - no more and no less is expected, surely?
In the words of old blue eyes "regrets I've had a few, but then again too few to mention..."
Ultimately the only thing that's priceless is giving of ourselves and our time, as when we're gone we have no more to give...
(((Tim))) I can't really add much to the excellent thoughts/advice that have been given already - except to say that I understand what you're going through as I'm going through something similar with my mom. I'm glad that you're reaching out to her.
Sending flowers is a wonderful idea. That's how I started to bridge the gap with my mom this year. Every moment you spend with her now is precious.